now it's the scary part

I read your other posts. I see you are 22? you are living with your boyfriend. (oh, your boyfriends bother has got..to..go!). You are an adult. It doesn't matter what they think or want you to do. You have to live your life for yourself and not worry what other people think. I know you don't want to disappoint or upset them, but you got to put their feelings aside and put your feelings infront. It is true, it will be a struggle for you, especially since you both are going to school so you have to figure out who will watch the baby while you do that. But, if there is a will, there is a way. If you were a teen living at home, that is when I think you would have the real problem. But you are not, you are an adult capable of making your own decisions. good luck to you! :)

While I think that everyone wants approval of their parents at any age, Trinity is right, you are an adult, and your parents can take your decision any way that they want to. If they want to throw a fit, cry and carry on, so what? You are not responsible for their reactions and how they take the news. They might surprise you. They'll get over it and probably be thrilled to be grandparents (though maybe not, I don't know them.) Look, you didn't intentionally get pregnant to hurt them, right? Even if they do have some initial dissappointment, there are a lot worse things you could be doing than having a baby. Again, they will get over it. The best way to approach the situation is to present this to them is to them in a confident manner and let them know that you feel this is the right decision. If you present this news to them in a positive way, they may react better. They will probably show some initial shock, but, look, you're going to be a mom - and that's an exciting and wonderful experience. Enjoy it and do not let any reactions of others affect you! P.S. Us moms can be pretty perceptive - your mom may know already or at least suspect.

If your Mom already suspects, she will be relieved to know and especially relieved that you have a plan to keep your baby. My daughter had an unplanned pregnancy last year and I suspected for two months before she told me and her dad. The anxiety was terrible. After she told us, it was such a relief to comfort her and help her get ready to be a Mom. Do expect some anger and hurt until the initial shock wears off. Let them vent their feelings and don't escalate the situation. And understand that it will be hard for them to tell their family and friends. They will be fine. Soon they will be all smiles as they look forward to their grandbaby. Good luck, Happy G'Ma

jessy-lee, Let me tell you my story. I was 24(!!) when I got pregnet with my son. I was also engaged and planning on getting married in sept. I was still in school but graduating that june.it was now february. It was also 1982 I felt no shame and knew even if we didn't get married I had the means and materity to bring up this child. Luckly my husband(boyfriend) made it so I didn't have to do it alone. I had complete confidence in my abilities to do this. BUT..I had to tell my mom(gulp...knashing my teeth), I was living at school at the time( I didn't go right from high school) and my husband and I decided this was the time to tell Went to my house, into the den Made my mom a cup of tea, gave her a cigerette and said mom I have something to tell you .....and then just said it. Her reaction was ..she dropped the tea...hit her hand to her forehead and said WHAT!!!!!! Then immediatly said...but oh its a baby......from there we discussed what we do about wedding ect... She was ticked off for about 2 weeks then got over it. Don't forget it was 1982 and the attitudes still prevailed so I understood her beings somewhat upset...but deep down inside, as much as I didn't want her to be upset I knew I could do this and thats what got me through. The "baby" is now 23 himself, graduated college as was the light of my moms eyes. Surprisely it was my dad that gave me the most support and the least judgement..he told me at the time that he would support me in anything I wanted to do, whether it be marriage, or not.. I'll never forget that!

"My mom has been hinting like maybe somehow she knows." when my daughter was about 18 years old and still living at home, i suspected she might be pregnant, and i asked her "are you pregnant?" she told me "no, why would you even ask?" later when she was 24, i suspected she might be pregnant, but after the first time i asked her that, i decided to just ask "are you putting on weight?" she told me no. less than a week later she informed me that she was pregnant and also admitted that she had been pregnant the first time i had asked, but had a subsequent miscarriage. with her third pregnancy, i just asked if she had taken a pregnancy test lately, to which she replied that she had . . . i didn't ask the results thinking that i had afforded her the opportunity to confide in me. i didn't find out until a few weeks later that the results had been positive. anyway, just wanted to let you know that your mom might very well suspect that you are pregnant and is waiting until you are ready to tell her. she probably already has an idea of how to react.

Hang in there, girly. Telling your parents won't be the easiest thing, and sure they're going to be upset, but remember you're their daughter, and this will be their grandchild. I'll tell you my story... I come from a VERY conservative family, my parents always looked down on single moms and couples who were pregnant before they got married, and pretty much made it very clear to me from a young age that I better not fall in to that. Well, I was living with my fiance at the time, we were planning on getting married, when I found out I was pregant. We told his parents first, and then mine, this was after my mom came to visit and I told her I had to go buy a baby gift for a friends shower, she looked at me and goes "I had a dream you were pregant"- Well, I told her that I wasn't pregnant, because I simply didn't want to deal with talking about it in the middle of the store. Well, I ended up just telling her via email ( I know it wasn't the best way, but I couldn't tell her to her face) she imediately called and her reaction was "I think I'm going to throw up". She got over that, and wanted to make sure I was having proper prenatal care. My then fiance and I ended our relationship and I ended up moving home with my parents, they weren't happy about it, but they still supported me. She told me she thought I should give the baby up for adoption because of my situation with the father, but she'd still support any decision I made. Well, I had my little girl 12 days ago, and my mom, dad and sister were all at the hospital the whole time I was in labor, and my mom was actually in the delivery room when Claire was born. She's now the very apple of their eyes, as soon as my dad gets home, he takes my daughter from me, because she needs her "time with pop". Sorry for rambling, just know it's going to be okay, they'll be upset but when they see their grandchild their hearts will be changed forever.