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What was your biggest form (website, group, book, person) of support when you were considering your options for an unplanned pregnancy?
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Honestly? Josh supported whatever I did but didn't want to pressure me to parent. (Goodness, I wish that man would have but I can't hold that against him. He said to me once, "I wish I could adopt her for you." *weeps*) Anyway: the agency was the only one who would "listen" to my concerns.
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My best friend at time was awesome. We actally started just as "party friends" but when things got bad he was the only who stuck around. He was good friends with the bfather and even helped me tell him. Years later he is no longer a part of my life, but he is still the greatest influence in my life. I did call him about 6 months ago and thank him for all the gifts he gave me. Without his help I would have never even known adoption was there for me. After my daughters adoption he helped me meet my now husband and gave me the greatest gift of my 2 dogs. I have strong feelings of dislike for him (because of his abuse of my dogs before they became mine) but I would be there for him in a heartbeat because when I look at how happy we are I know that we/I would not be what we are today without him. :)
I told NO ONE almost my whole pregnancy..until I wa like 6 months along and then I was "outed". The woman that confronted me was very much trying to get me to "not ruin my life" and I blindly went to three doctors/clinics at her insistance fro termination.
When that didn't happen I decided on adoption as the solution and announced it to all...mother and friends. They all just blindly agreed.
It was not until I went to MA where my agancy was that I felt "supported"..by the agency, by my counsoler, by the family I lived with.
I wrote letters to my best friend and my ex boyfriend ( not the dad), but my real main person to talk to was Joan, the adoptive mom that I lived with.
So it was all agency connected...not the best case senerio..though they were a "good" agency.
I wish someone had connected me with an older mom who could have warned me what it would be like. I wish that any of the people I announced adoption to in my life would have questioned me just a little.
For me, when I was faced with my first unplanned pregnancy I was sure of what I was going to do right away and did it (abortion) and really didn't have any support. I told no one...
When I was pregnant with my son whom I placed for adoption my mom and the adoption agency were my main sources of support.
I did read a few books on open adoption when I was pregnant that helped educate me. One being "Dear Birthmother".