AK Families!!

OK! So nobody is answering the call from up North? Well, if anyone stumbles across this, could you let me know how many post placement visits AK needs to finalize?

I'm here, but we may have bad news on our adoption, so I'm a bit down in the dumps.

ours was domestic not state adoption and we only needed one post-placement. I think the requirement varies from state to state, so even though we live in Alaska, I think that was a Kansas rule which is the state we adopted from.

we tried to adopt from Arkansas this summer, we were told to come get our baby and when we got there, the agent changed her mind!!! It was so awful we never wanted to try again, now we have found a little girl in Poland, but we need to get a waiver for our financial situation to adopt internationally, and we are not thinking they will do it.Honestly, if this falls thru again, I can't do it again, it's worse than a miscarriage.Amber

I'm so sorry, I can't imagine how hard it would be to lose a referral. I wish you luck with Poland, I guess I didnt' know that it was an open country for adoption.

I guess it is, but the requirements are fairly strict. Amber

Hey Amber! I'm so sorry that you have to do through a lost referral. I can't even begin to imagine. We are thinking about you. What kind of waiver are you trying to get? From whom? Remember that there is a child out there for all of us so keep being strong and he or she will find their way to you!!

We actually are in a special circumstance, we already have 6 bio kids, one with a very rare disability. Last summer a baby was born with the same disability as our son, and the parents couldn't deal with the complications of it and gave her up at birth. We were called and asked if we would take her since by then she was a few months old, and still in the hospital, and they couldn't even find a foster home that would take her. We prayed about it ALOT and decided that we could love her and care for her and we went through the process of getting our home study done, satisfying Arkansas' requirments, ICPC, ect. Then when we were approved we loaded all our kids in the Expedition and drove to Little Rock to get our girl. We could have flown, but we thought that our whole family should be there, and we were going to need to spend a few weks in AR before coming home with her. When we got to Little Rock the agent changed her mind. It ended up being that the agent was very unethical, and in our mind "sold" her to the highest bidder. She was investigated by the adoption board in AR, we went to court, it was a huge mess!!!!After that our hearts were broken because we had come to love Anne and it really was like losing a pregnacy, we had her room set up, her clothes, everything, and came home with empty arms.A few weeks ago, we got ANOTHER call, this time about a girl in Poland with the same disabilty, again she was given up at birth, but she is 3 and has been in a hospital her whole life, with very little medical care and very little contact with people. We knew right away we would do whatever it takes to help her. Here in the US she has a fighting chance at life, left in her crib in a hospital in Poland she won't live another few years.That said, our problem is that since we have a house full of kids our income needs to be about $60,000 to satisfy INS (BCIS) that we can support her. We are slightly less than that. BUT our assets are pretty good, we have about $120,000 in equity in our home, and we own several new cars, a boat, and my husband owns his own business worth at least $50,000.Now that you've read our "novel" if you have any feed back I'd love to hear it.Amber