First birthday

my heart is with you. i am wrapping you in a hug! what a wonderful person you are!

Tam, Sending you loads of cyber hugs, my prayers are with you. Pip :flower:

Sending another cyber hug your way! :grouphug: Do you have any contact with your birth daughter? Do you get pictures? My prayers are also with you!

(((Tam))) Bithdays can be the worst. My heart goes out to you.

hey there, I know how it feels. I hope you made it through the day ok. My mom suggested that for her birthday that we light a candle and reflect on the wonderful child we brought into the world. I think about her, what she is doing at the moment, and how she is probably just a really happy little girl..it really helps.

Feb 15 is my birthday too. Here's a hug to you, Tam, from another Feb 15 birthday girl. Now that I've become aware of the impact of adoption on me, I miss my first mom more than ever. In addition to the usual celebrations on my birthday, I just ended up crying thinking of my first mom.

what a beautiful thing to do. :grouphug: lisa

((((HUGS))))I hope you were able to get thru the day okay. I stayed home and wrote in her journal and in mine and just lit the place up with candles. I also just went thru all the pictures I had of her.Do you have any contact with her?

Tam, i know birthdays are nevver easy. especailly the first birthday. i am so sorry. big hugs to you. my little guys are turning 7 and 5 and i wish more than anything just to see what they look like and what there doing. it is so hard to be without your child or children. my heart goes out to you.

[font=Century Gothic]Thanks to everyone who took a moment to reply to my post on February 14, my birthdaughter's first birthday. That was a hard day and this is the first time I've been back to the forums since. I felt really overwhelmed for awhile, like I couldn't even think of her, let alone talk about her much.[/font][font=Century Gothic]To answer some of your questions, I do have contact with her and her family. They live in the same state as me, about 2 hours south. I haven't visited, but we do talk on the phone, email, and send pictures. I just talked with Shelby's amom, Terry, on the phone last weekend and she updated me on how she's doing and all the amazing things she does now. It was so good to hear about her. And of course, I cried. [/font][font=Century Gothic]Terry and I had a good conversation about how even though I was crying, I was still happy to hear about Shelby and that I wanted to remain in contact even though it hurts at times. And Terry said, "I'm just putting this out there...you know where we are and you know that you're always welcome here. When you're ready, we'll be waiting for you." That really made me cry, because I know she means it and I feel so fortunate to have found parents for my daughter who want me to be a part of her life, in whatever way that works for me. [/font]

Great to hear from you Tam. (((HUGS))) My son's birthday is February 13 a day before your little one's.

Tam, it's good to have an update, hugs Pip :wings: