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Long story short. thanks to this board I was made aware of Mary Coffey. Thank You Mary. Here is my problem.
Mary found A birth mother father 3 brothers and a sister.Like I said ill keep it short. Mary Called me on Monday and told me my half brother wanted to talk to me. In short he told me my birth mother was beside herself when the letters arrived. Apparantly she never told anyone about me. the brothers and sister knew each other but they bounced around from foster homes. Anyway he also told me he would probably be the only one calling me becuase the mother was so pissed off.
Thats not the problem I really dont care kinda like an to each thier own kinda thing. Here is my problem. I told him I wanted to meet with him and he said ok ill call u back. Im still waiting its been three days. Also I told him ill email him a picture of me and he said he would do the same. I havent gotten anything. He did say he uses dial up. Now I dont want to bug the guy however I want to know more. Like what they look like. I could care less if my mom doesnt want anything to do with me but I want to know how he is feeling about this.
Is three days enough or should I ease up I mean I never knew I had brother and sisters but I knew I was adopted. He was thrilled when he found out and wrote Mary right away.
Whats the problem? Am I being an *** about this?
I mean I had a great life like any other kid adopted by great parents. I was the seond of 3 brother and a sister.
Please help!!!
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He may just need time to process the information. Reunion is such an emotional time for everyone. With my husbands reunion, he was raised as an only child......turns out he was one of 7. None of his siblings knew about him, and now even 2 years later, some of them are still trying to deal with it.I would just send him a short e-mail to let him know you're looking forward to getting to know him. Good Luck,Snoop
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I guess like everyone else sort of said it is different for everyone and trying to wrap your head all around a situation like this takes some time. Some of us I guess wanted the whole chariots of fire reunion thing where people are running into each others arms and others well.....just do not see the point. There is also a lot of problems with if I do this who is going to hate me.? Questions of insecurities, self esteem loyalties I guess. We all share one thing in commom and I think it is great but nobody has the same history or story to share because they are all so different. That is because everyone is different and if I or anyone told you that there is a time line we would by lying to you. Just be patient I suppose. This is exciting for you as it is scary but sometimes jumping right in is the best thing and others like to put one toe in at a time. ? Good luck.
It took my 1/2 sister and I 3 1/2 years after initial contact to reconnect....she was taken back from not being told by my birthmother...and yes, birthmom doesn't want any contact....but at least now I'm finally in contact with the 2 1/2 sisters...and everything is going swell.....give him time....my 1/2 brother still does not want any contact just like Mom....good luck....brenda
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