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DH and I have been communitating with a potential birthmother. We haven't matched -- we are still getting to know each other, and she has not indicated to us yet whether or not she wants to match, but she does want to continue getting to know us. This is very positive. Our adoption counselor says that the potential birthfather is active military and is currently serving in Iraq, and that military pbirthfathers are protected under federal law. Does anyone know what all is involved in getting relinquishments from an active/deployed military pbirthfather, assuming of course, that he is agreeable to placement?
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I cant tell you much but in the military birthfather's rights are protected. He would have to sign a wiaver to give up the baby. I think I read somewhere that he has to sign over custody. That's going to be tough unless you know who is his Power of Attorney and get in touch w/ them to reliquesh rights. Esp if you can not get in touch w/ him personally. Sorry cant be of more help. Andria
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I think the issue might be that often deployed soldiers can't do things like that (in order to protect them they can't get divorced while deployed - this means that if they married someone who is cheating on them and spending through their entire bank account - they can't divorce that person until they're not deployed anymore). I'm not sure if it works the same way but there COULD be issues with signing over his rights while overseas. I'm also pretty positive that his POA can NOT sign away his parental rights. But maybe he can sign and send the papers back, not sure.Sorry I'm not real helpful but thinking of you. Hope everything works out.ETA: Just realized that this is an old post but I'll keep the info up there for anyone looking - update if you get a chance to let us know how things worked out. Looks like you matched one way or another and have a wonderful little boy. Congrats!
