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How do you deal with it? We found out the 16 year old boy we are adopting has accessed it at the RTC he is currently in.
this is really difficult- it is so incredibly easy for kids to access it when all their gadgets have internet access- ipads, tablets, phones, gaming systems, etc. If a kid really wants to they can find it anywhere-- even at school in the computer lab. There are so many websites that seem innocent enough but have no regulation as to what people post on them. I would not let him use the computer unless I was in the room with him sitting right next to him. Don't let him have a phone with internet access, don't let him have a gaming system with internet access or a tablet or any kind of device he can get internet on. Make sure the school has firewalls installed - they should have them. Keep in mind that if he is determined to access it, he will find a way, so just be very watchful and mindful of what he is doing.
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Parental controls.. on everything. There are great ones for mobile devices and computers which are undetectable for teens. A bit pricey but well worth it.
At 16 , you know it is not uncommon for a boy to look at porn . We may not approve or even want to see it but it is normal. I remember sneaking my play boy and pent house mags into my room 40 some years ago
There's a difference between magazines and what you can find online.
Interest in sexuality is natural, but when boys are developing their ideas about sexuality, what they find online can be extremely damaging to their sense of healthy sexuality. It can also warp their view of women: what they should look like and do, as well as their role in sexuality (to be there only to satisfy the man). Arguably, adults can recognize it as fantasy.
There's a difference between magazines and what you can find online.
Interest in sexuality is natural, but when boys are developing their ideas about sexuality, what they find online can be extremely damaging to their sense of healthy sexuality. It can also warp their view of women: what they should look like and do, as well as their role in sexuality (to be there only to satisfy the man). Arguably, adults can recognize it as fantasy.
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