advice needed about contacting formerly matched pbm

Hi everyone, DH and I have been waiting with LDS FS for almost 18 months. We were matched with a pbirthmom last November, and became quite close to her over the three weeks before she had the baby and decided to parent. We were very hurt in the aftermath of all that, but of course have gone through the grieving process and reached some level of acceptance. In the past month I have met a couple (who are also Deaf) whose daughter just told them about her unplanned pregnancy. As I've talked with them I've thought more and more about birthparents and birthgrandparents. Tonight as I drove home, I thought of D. (pbirthmother) and truly wondered how she and her children (she has an older son, and then the daughter who she was going to place) are doing. So, I thought maybe I would send her an email. I've honestly thought how I would feel if she wrote back...and I just don't have those hurt emotions that I used to have. I don't feel emotional right now, just thinking about it. I'm truly curious about how she is doing and just want her to know that we still care. I don't have any alterior motives . . . just true concern for her and her children. Obviously, I'm going to wait a few days to really think about it before I send anything, and I wanted to hear some feedback from you folks. What do you think? --L.