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Hello! I am new to this board, and my husband and I have a 4 year old bio son, after 2 years of trying for a second, having 2 surgeries, and starting to try some alternative therapies, God spoke to us this Christmas and asked us to open our hearts to a child in another country. We had discussed this before we were married (that's the whole point of pre-marriage courses in our church!!). We started the process in January, and as of now, our file is being reviewed and sent on to Beijing. I guess I have 2 issues I had to work through. One being that the whole IVF, infertility drugs and treatment just did not feel right with us, partly due to some of the church teachings, and also, to be perfectly blunt, it seems kind of outrageous that people are willing to pour so much money into the "science" behind the treatments, with really no guarantee you will get a child in the end. I was also quite upset that my OB/GYN never even suggested we should consider adoption, it seemed like I was a "challenge" case for him, and that he could not understand WHY we would not conside IVF, but we were perfect candidates!!!(for mulitiple embryos, multiple pregnancies, etc.not to mention all the ethical and moral dilemas of pursuing such a venture! It was a load off my mind when my dh finally came to the same conclusion as me! Now we can focus our efforts and hopes and dreams on our future daughter, who does exist, and who does need us to parent her. I feel very blessed that God has touched our hearts and is bringing her to us in a most unorthodox way!
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Alberta - Welcome to this wonderful world of adoption! I hope that your decision to adopt and all the work so far has been exciting for you and has given you some peace, now knowing how God will add a child to your family! FOr us, after being married almost 10 years and having unexplained (by doctors, although we have pretty strong ideas of our "problem"), we knew adoption would probably be the only way God would make us parents. We did not want to pursue ANY medical attempts/assistance to get pregnant. I've always known I would be a mom, and had complete faith that it would happen somehow, some day. I was surprised at the few people who thought it strange that we didn't want to invest thousands of dollars, spend possibly many more years of waiting, or go through more stress of trying to conceive. Fortunately, many people and most of our family was completely supportive and understanding of our reasons why we wanted to adopt. Although the adoption process was stressful, once we finished all our paperwork and were just in "waiting mode", I felt a HUGE relief! I knew at that point it was out of our hands and completely up to God. And He has much broader shoulders than I. So that was a great point for me. I hope your little boy has a baby sister or brother soon!!! Please keep us posted here!
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