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We have been submitting home studies on boys, ages 5-9, and have 2 bio boys, 11 & 9. Today we attended an adoption event and unintentionally found a 15 year old boy we think would be a great match with our family. I say unintentionally because I noticed a red headed boy (my boys are gingers and they stick out to me!), & read his profile out of curiosity. I was hooked immediately.
Has anyone else gone into this expecting to adopt younger, and then changed to a teen?? We are not going to pursue other teens, just THIS teen. I just wonder how crazy we are to do this? We have discussed it in detail, and the difference it would mean in the house and changing of birth order for our oldest son. Before this he had expressed wanting an older brother, and still feels the same.
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I know my husband and I went into this thinking of getting a girl, we have submitted now and are hopefully going to get 3 little boys. You never know, but I am firm believer you have to listen to your gut only you can say what is right for your family. Good luck!
LOL! You just reminded me how I felt when I saw my kiddos pictures in a book for kids to be adopted. Hubby and I thought about adopting 1 child 0-4 year old and I saw their picture and just fell in love. I went from 1 kiddo to 5. Everyone thought I was crazy!!! I had a special connection that no one will be able to understand. Today, 3 years later, we are a family and they are my world. So happy I listened to my heart and God. I believe it was God's plan.
Not crazy at all. When I saw photos of our girls I just KNEW. Another family was chosen over us, and that placement ended up disrupting & our girls came to us. Follow your gut!
Teenagers are 'Stellar' and Awesome!!
Have you talked with your Future Son, and is your Family what he really wants in a Family??
What does your older son want in an Older Brother as well also and do they come close in matching??
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Not crazy at all. We haven't adopted a teenager, but we had no intention of adopting a child with special needs. But then our agency got a call for special needs siblings needing a home, when I saw their pictures I could picture them as part our family. Once we met, it was love at first sight, and I just knew we would be a forever family. You can't always imagine what perfect blessing are waiting for you.
You are not crazy at all! I am a big believer in serendipity! You found him (or maybe he found YOU?!) I would definitley pursue it. It sounds like a happily ever after story just waiting to unfold. Keep us updated!
Unfortunately this was not a happy ending. We found out just this past weekend that he has behaviors that were kept hidden from us, behaviors that could put our younger ones in danger. We have declined the placement, our hearts are broken. :sad: