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Hi !My husband and I are in the middle of adopting a little girl. She has been with us for almost 6 months and technically we are considered "foster parents" until we get a court date (hopefully at the end of August) to legally adopt her. It's been very challenging... Our lives have been turned upside down... but we are slowly but surely getting the hang of it... "Parenting" is hard work! Any tips and advice will be greatly appreciated... Please write back!
GennieG
Welcome to adoption.com!
How old is your daughter? Mine are 5 & 8 and we are finalizing next week. It is tough! Hubby and I were married nearly 12 years, with no children when they moved in - what a switch!
Are there any specific issues you are having ? there are a ton of knowledgeable members around here - I am sure they will have suggestions.
Diane
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That was quick! She just turned 7yrs old this past March! I don;t know where to start... Behavior and respecting authority is a biggie right now....
Good ol 7 year olds. Mine is 6 and loves pushing the limit on authority issues. His big thing now is to try and talk back and then quickly say "i'm just playing" when i give him 'the look'
Gennie you may want to try some old fashioned behaviour modification techniques. Try using positive reinforcement to encourage the behaviours you want to see and try to determine the function of the challenging behaviours. If it is attention seeking for example then you will need to ignore the behaviour as attention will only cause it to increase. Good luck!
Be consistent and don't tolerate bad behavior. They will push your buttons until your buttons leave!!! Not sure about their situation, but they may "idealize" their birth parents/family.
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