Dont know what to do

poohbear2,As one person here on this thread specifically requested, it would be of great help if you gave a link or links for any pregnant woman to utilize. Asking for this particular woman's state or information won't help the very many women out there who need resources quickly. Can't you share this info from a broad perspective, since you state you have information to share? That would be such a great help, not only to this particular woman who posted, but for everyone else out there. That said, bubbles girl, Jenna has made some good points. And the poster who asked you if you have access to counseling, made a great point as well. Do you have access to counseling? Is there a rape crisis center in your area that can provide you w/counseling (in my area, they have an 800 number hotline for you to talk and seek resources).Here's one I just found. [url]www.rainn.org[/url]They have an 800 number. Here is it, sweetie. Good luck to you. You are in all of our prayers here. National Sexual Assault Hotline • 1.800.656.HOPE (4673) • Free. Confidential. 24/7.

[URL="http://www.helpingfamiliesfirst.org/rape-crisis-center/"]http://www.helpingfamiliesfirst.org/rape-crisis-center/[/URL] [URL="http://www.mass.gov/dph/fch/sapss/sites.htm"]http://www.mass.gov/dph/fch/sapss/sites.htm[/URL] [URL="http://www.awarenet.net/"]www.awarenet.net[/URL] [URL="http://www.lovingandcaring.org/community.html"]http://www.lovingandcaring.org/community.html[/URL] [URL="http://www.care-net.org/news/savalife.html"]http://www.care-net.org/news/savalife.html[/URL] Hello these are some Different links that may be helpful to some one, we use the care net for Pregnant women who has decided to parent but needs counseling and help in getting maternity clothing and things for the new baby. I wish each and all success in what road life brings you down, always follow your heart and listen to god and he want lead you wrong, I am here anytime to assist you, please feel free to email me. God bless :wings: Remember each and every one are Angels! :cheer: I am always cheering you on!

PoohBear2;Why would you be offering some of those links to women who are deciding what to do with an unplanned pregnancy? One of those sites specifically refers to pregnant women as "birthmothers" instead of expectant Mothers, which is at the core of coercive language. Shouldn't we be lifting up these women instead of pushing a premature title on them that only serves to separate them from their child? A woman is not a birthmother until she signs the TPR; referring to her as such prior to that time is coercive and disrespectful. At best.

I am sorry I was just offering help! Since you know what they need, why do you not offer the help then. Every post you have something negative to say, Please explain what kind of help are they asking for then. [URL="http://www.motherhelp.info/"]http://www.motherhelp.info/[/URL] This site is for everything. [URL="http://www.aces.edu/dept/extcomm/specialty/nutrm01.html"]http://www.aces.edu/dept/extcomm/specialty/nutrm01.html[/URL]

Negative? Please. I am simply looking out to make sure these women receive the respect that they deserve. I simply questioned why you offered biased help.

:( I am very sorry , never was trying to upset any one and my sincere apologies I am sending, please forgive me. Thanks

Listen to your heart and Trust in God and he will lead the right way, I promise! Married to a Great DHHoping for a BABY soon!

Hi bubbles. I'm a big believer in meeting your baby before placing for adoption. I really think expectant parents should spend time with their children as a family before they make that decision. You don't have to do it while you are pregnant, there are plenty of hopeful adoptive parents who would adopt a 2 month old or whatever. If you do get matched while you are pregnant, remember that if you don't feel the way you expect to feel upon seeing your baby that you can CHANGE YOUR MIND. You may feel the way you suspect you will feel, or you may not. I wouldn't want any feelings of obligation to a specific adoptive family to get in the way of your decisionmaking after your baby is born. Good luck.

Follow your heart and do what you feel is best for you and your little angel. I hope there is someone you can talk to, or try to find someone to reach out to. Nobody can tell you what to do, you need to find that answer from within. I see, you did say if you chose adoption you would always wonder if your baby was okay. There are different types of adoption...from pictures, to even visits its entirely up to you at what level of adoption you would prefer. But, you need to find an adoptive couple who would agree to your adoption plan. As adoption is not for everyone..you will have to know if this is something you can find peace in doing-so please take your time and consider all your options. May God Bless you and your decision.:wings:

I am sorry that this is such a hard time for you - you did not ask to be put in this position and unfortunately now have to make a decision that I am sure you never dreamed you would need to make. You need to know that you are a good mother. You are putting your babies interests and welfare above your own. I can tell that you are not only concerned with seeing your attackers face in your childs but you are concerned with re-living a horrific event - a legacy that does not belong to you nor your child. Adoption is about love and about putting your baby's needs above your own. I think that every potential birth mom has feelings of sadness, grief, and wonders where they can find the courage to place their child in a loving home. Open adoption is wonderful because you have the oportunity to pick your baby's parents and have a possibility of letters, pictures, and maybe even visits. I was afraid of open adoption when we adopted our son. Our relationship with his birthmom was semi-open (she picked us and we sent letters/pictures). I was afraid of the possible effects on our son. I soon found that the effects were wonderful for everyone. Our son is three years old. We have visited with his birthmom on several occations. We exchange pictures/leters and send email to each other. We love her with all our hearts. She is truely a member of our family. I am not trying to talk you into adoption.... I just want you to know the truth about adoption - to know that it is an act of love where miracles truely can come true. There are agencies who will try to talk you into things and there are agencies that will give you some facts and will respect you and your right to choose what you feel is best in your heart. You can email me if you would like to talk some more. My prayers are with you. Best wishes, FromTheHeart -

when it some thing like that you need to think hard do what you feel is the right thing to do but a rember that the baby has notthing to do with that sick man i was raped too so i know how hard it iz however do want you feel is right.

I think she means it figuratively, like she will remember the event whenever she looks at her child.

I actually know someone who kept a baby that she had as a result of date rape. She loves him but didn't bond as well as she did with her second child. The boy, now 18, knows it. He loves his mom, but it isn't the kind of relationship his little brother has. You could ask of a open, as in letters and pictures, so that you know how the child is, without having a relationship. Remember you will not forget having this baby. good luck

i was also raped, but i didn't become pregant...:( poor child..i suggest you put the rapist behind bars because you did not ask for that and no matter what, that baby is still apart of you even if its father has commited a crime to you.

Bubbles,I will keep you in my prayers as I know this is a hard time for you. My mother speaks of a time she was raped while in high school. She always tell young ladies how hurt she was (she did not become pregnant), but she always says seek help to be able to deal with the trauma. If you do go the adoption road, Open Adoption may be a thing that would interest you. You can set the basis of how much openess you want pics, letters, or visits. Open adoption can be a blessing for all parties involved.