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Do you have a list of questions you would love to ask your Birth Mother as you are getting to know her? It could be anything like...who did I get my eye color from or Why was I placed or did you ever have a picture of me, etc, etc, etc.
I would LOVE to hear about your list of questions!!!
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I'll play...although not very well. I recently obtained my non-id files from the agency and that answered some questions, and I haven't come up with new ones.
What kind of student were you? Can I blame you for my procrastination, or did I develop that on my own? (j/k about using the word blame, I'm slightly more sensitive than that)
What was it like to grow up with all those siblings? For some reason, I had always pictured you as an only child, not the youngest of many.
That's it for now. Sorry I don't have more for the list.
LOL!! If DD ask me if she could blame me for her procrastination I would smile and yes!! LOL!!
Keep the questions coming!!
Roni - I've been reunited for two years now but I still remember a lot of the oddball questions I asked my birth mother during our first phone conversation...it was totally wild!
There were trivial things like...
What kinds of foods do you like? (BTW, we like exactly the same things...down to half-toasted toast, stinky cheese, really really rare meat, red wine, and we agree that garlic is a food group)
What kinds of clothes do you wear? (again, we shop at the same stores, both wear a lot of black, and exchange clothes every time we have a f2f)
Then we got a little deeper...
Political/religious/social views? (we were exactly alike)
Then we got into sensitive stuff...
WHY DID YOU RELINQUISH ME??? Did you think of me over the years? Did you tell anyone? Was your extended family supportive? Did you have friends and/or some kind of support network around you? Why did you refuse contact for two years? What made you change your mind?
What was it like being pregnant? The birth? Do you remember holding me? Our time in the hospital together? (for some reason these were really important to me...I felt like this small part of my life was really a mystery)
I was completely entertained by the trivial things and the incredible similarities...most important to me though was understanding the relinquishment and why she had made her decision...I needed that to begin the healing process on my end.
Hope this helps :) Hopefully you'll get some more responses!
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