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Has anyone here given up their baby to a family member.I read a few books on adoption. I find I have some of the stress related feelings of an adopted child as well as a birth mother.Like for instance. I felt I would have to wait till my mother was dead before I would be able to talk to my son. That turned out to be true. But now, my half sister who I hardly know, well I kind of think the same thing. My son I gave up to my sister, she and my sons wife work together.I feel very alone in this. I read alot about people and adoption, but I don`t hear much of anyone being adopted in the family. None that turn good.My son and I, our communication is coming to a crinding hult. Its nothing he is doing. I guess I should tell him that. But even that I`m afraid to say. He doesn`t want to talk about it.If there is anyone who is in the same position as me. I would appriciate hearing from you,
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I have a few similarities to your position, but I am not sure I am in the same position you are. My son was born when I was 17 (2 months before my 18th birthday). His father turned 18 the week before he was born. Who knew a week could make such a difference. My parents had me meet with and in the end turn my son over to my dad's infertile cousin and his wife. (Also turned out they were not totally infertile, as I have learned they have a bio-child 6 years younger than my son). Anyhow, as it was two months before I turned 18, and my experience with adoption was the ABC after-school special, I thought I had 6 months to change my mind. Knowing I was not going to win the situation at hand, I vowed I would get my son back in actually 1 month after turned 18 (I had him for 5 weeks). I WAS WRONG. That is all b.s. I ended up protesting their adoption. The hearing was 8 months later. The judge ruled a month later. My son had been with them for 9 months and was 10 months old. Guess what the judge ruled. I did not appeal as I felt by the time I got to court, he'd be 3 and I could be taking him away from the only house he'd ever known. Now 18 years later, I made contact with him 2 weeks ago. I personally, put the letter I had written him in his hand. He thanked me for doing it "right" and we talked for an hour. He said he wanted to find me, but was clearly very loyal to his parents. We are supposed to have some myspace communication for now, as his mother is an emotional wreck over all this, and he is hesitant to tell her he met me. For the past 18 years, I have had VERY limited involvement with that side of the family. They do not invite me to many events. I have talked to adad once on phone and 2 e-mails, directly prior to my contact with birthson. I have talked to two of his Aunt's (my dad's first cousin) one time each, and one of his cousins (my second cousin) three or four times. That's my tale - don't know if we have any similarities, but PM me if you want to talk. Erikka
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