If there are other siblings around, they don't understand why you are being raised in another household.
Again, I'm sorry you had that experience, I haven't had that experience, nor, to my knowledge, has my son...who has a very open and involved relationship with her sister, who was placed in open adoption.
I think, once again, a lot depends on the people involved...there is no right or wrong, only what works for those involved.
I never felt confused and I never had the feeling of wonder regarding who my mother was or what my name was...I also never had to deal with a struggle of power between my two families.
My daughter, whom I placed, has also never had to deal with this...of course, I can see where this could be an issue, if relationships and boundaries aren't respected, which is what it sounds like in your circumstance.
