Are you an adult adoptee that wants to share your story??

November 13, 2006

Are you an adult adoptee that would be willing to share your adoptive experience in a written and confidential manner?

**We are seeking experiences of all kinds; good/bad/everything in between! Please do not hesitate to participate in our project if your adoptive experience was not entirely positive

WE ARE:

Catie Worden, BSW &

Tammie Pollotta, BSW

Graduate students pursuing our Masters of Social Work in the

Greater Rochester Collaborative Masters of Social Work

Program.We are conducting a masterҒs project,

for our Masters Degree beginning January 2007.

SEEKING FOR OUR PROJECT:

Adopted adults (18+)

Adopted before the age of 3

Adopted outside of the family

Not adopted by a step-parent

This research is focusing on the adoptive experience and the affect it has on a life, beyond childhood and adolescence. This will be a two-part written survey asking open-ended questions about your experience such as ғWas your adoption openly discussed in your family? Your information will be kept completely confidential and will go towards understanding experiences in the field of adoptions!! You will be more than welcome to read the finished study/attend our MasterԒs Project Symposium in May 2007. We would love to learn more about your adoptive experience. We thank you in advance, and more information will be provided upon contact. If you are interested or know someone who think might be please contact us via email/phone!!

If you are interested, please contact us via email at: swadoptionstudy@hotmail.com

susiesgirl

November 23, 2006

[FONT=Franklin Gothic Medium]I WAS TOLD MY WHOLE LIFE THAT I WAS ADOPTED AND WE CELEBRATED MY B-DAY ON JULY 31 OF 1968,.,,THAT WE FOUND OUT WAS NOT MY BIRTHDAY.I WAS A MONTH OLDER THEN THEY STATED ON MY BCERT.THAT MADE ME SOOOO MAD THAT THEY COULDNT EVEN LET MY KEEP MY REAL BIRTHDAY.[/FONT]

MY BMOMMA WAS TOLD I WAS GOING OUT OF STATE.. I GREW UP IN THE SAME SMALL TOWN THAT SHE WAS IN. sHE LIVED ACROSS THE STREET FROM MY H-SCHOOL.MY SISTER AND BROTHER WERE IN SCHOOL AT THE TIME THAT I WAS. IT BLEW ME AWAY. WHEN I FOUND MY MOMMA WE ARE EXACTLY ALIKE, WE WENT THRU PICS AND WE WORE THE SAME GLASSES AND HAD THE SAME HAIRSYLES..IT WAS BIZARRE.WE LIVED PARALLEL LIVES. MY MOMMA WAS WORRIED THAT WHEN I FOUND HER I WOULD BLAME HER FOR GIVING ME UP. I NEVER DID NOR WILL I EVER.SHE WANTED TO KEEP ME BUT MY BGRAMMA TOOK HER HAND AND FORCED HER TO SIGN ME OFF.

I WAS RAISED BY GOOD PARENTS WHO SUPPORTED MY SEARCH. we LOOKED FOR YEARS BUT BECAUSE OF THE B-DATE BEING WRONG THERE WAS NEVER A MATCH. a LADY ONLINE EMAILED MY A-MOM AND TOLD HER THE LAW IN mICHIGAN WAS THAT WE COULD HIRE AN INTERMEDIARY TO GO AND SEARCH AND FIND, THAT IS HOW I FOUND MY MOMMA 5 YEARS AGO. I AM SO BLESSED BECAUSE SHE AND HER HUBBY WELCOMED ME WITH OPEN ARMS. i HAVE 2 SETS OF PARENTS. THE ONLY BAD THING IS THAT THEY DONT GET ALONG. ONE COMMENT WAS TAKEN BADLY AND SO I HAVE A FIGHT ON MY HANDS WHEN IT COMES TO WHO I SPEND HOLIDAYS WITH,.ITS REALLY HARD. I WISH THAT I WOULD HAVE FOUND HER 10 YEARS EARLIER THEN SHE COULD HAVE BEEN IN MY WEDDING AND AT MY CHILDRENS BIRTHS.THAT IS REALLY HARDD FOR ME BECAUSE MY SISTER HAS BEEN ABLE TO SHARE THOSE EXPERIENCES WITHMY BMOMMA AND I COULDNT. sO THERE IS A LOT OF JEALOUSY BETWEEN US ON MY PART IT WAS BECAUSE SHE GOT TO STAY AND ON HER PART SHE DIDNT GET THE THINGS THAT I GOT GROWING UP. i GOT MY 1ST CAR AT THE AGE OF 14, WE WENT TO DISNEYWORLD,BUSH GARDENS, AND SEA WORLD EVERY YEAR. YOU SURE CANT DO THAT NOWDAYS, BUT MY FOLKS TOOK ME PLACES SO I GOT T0 SEE QUITE A BIT.I HAD DESIGNER CLOTHES AND ANY TOY THAT WAS NEW, I WAS SPOILED.

I ALWAYS FELT A VOID IN MY LIFE THO BECAUSE I DIDNT KNOW WHO I WAS. NOW I SEE MY FAMILY AND CAN SEE WHO I LOOK LIKE (MY BMOMMA)I KNOW WHAT DISEASES TO LOOK OUT FOR.THAT IS IMPORTANT AND I THINK THAT THERE SHOULD BE A LAW THAT ALL ADOPTEES GET THEIR FULL MEDICAL RECORDS. TOO MANY PEOPLE GET HURT THRU ADOPTION. mY BMOMMA WAS LIED TO THE WHOLE TIME AND SO WAS MY ADOPTED FAMILY. I AM JUST SO THANKFUL THAT MY APARENTS ALWAYS TOLD ME THE TRUTH ABOUT BEING ADOPTED. AND THAT THEY WERE WILLING TO PUT OUT THE $$$ FOR A SEARCH THAT TOOKOVER 20 YEARS TO COMPLETE.:hippie: