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I found my birth mother over two years ago and while things have been very good between us relationship wise, her son seemed to have to no desire whatsoever of knowing me. He's a year younger than me, an only child, and never knew about me until about a month after me and my bmom's first meeting. I did finally meet him last April and while we had a good visit, he and I didn't really connect and I just figured that was about as good as things were going to get for us. I didn't hear from him until last week when, on a hunch, I decided to send him a simple Merry Christmas email. He replyed, wishing me the same and giving me some updates on his job. I wrote back, filling him on some going-ons in my life. Well today he send me an email telling me he's looking forward to catching up on 40 years and he's ready to have a "brother" in his life and to keep in touch and "not be a stranger".
I'm thrilled! Everyone kept telling to give him time and he'll come around when he's ready. I had my doubts, I'll admit, but seems things have finally worked out for us two.
Just had to share with you all.
Chris
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I am a 40 year old woman who was recently united with my biological father. He adopted me out when I was 2. Our relationship is beyond my wildest dreams. He has, in a very short time, become my Dad. We have a bond that time didn't ruin.
He has 2 children from his current marriage. They are 22and 24 years old. They want nothing to do with me, which is OK, I understand they are young, but they are really giving Dad a hard time about spending time with me. They said they hated me. We've never met. When Dad and I are together, his cell phone rings off the hook. I can hear his daughter yelling at him. I'm afraid that this will get too much for him to handle and I will be without my Dad again.
Any advice? Thanks.
I'm sorry your bsibs are making your new relationship with your bfather difficult. I'm a bit surprised two "grown" children would act so spoiled about you and your bdad's reunion, expecially saying that they "hate you" and have yet to meet you. Do they both still live at home and dependent on him?
Truth be known, bsibs can and will affect the course of a reunion; for better or for worse. My bbrother's relunctance did give my bmom occasional concerns that she'd lose him over me. And vice versa. His "coming around" has been a huge relief to her.
Oftentimes, reunions can go at a very fast pace and perhaps yours is since you mentioned there is already such a strong bond between you and your bdad and THAT could be making your bsibs feel they have been left out in the cold.....Could be that you just need to slow things down a bit and allow your reunion to unfold at its own pace and then your bsibs can, in time, become a part when they're ready. You may even have to step back yourself and give your bdad and them time to "come around" together as a family.
Chris