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I really need help on these following questions because my ex-girlfriend told me she is pregnant and that she got an abortion without telling me.
1. She said that she had symptoms of pregnancy and so she went to see a doctor who confirmed that she was pregnant. The doctor told her that she had pregnant for 17 days. Is it possible for symptoms to show that fast? Can doctors even test for pregnancy that early? How accurate are doctor estimates on time?
2. She says the doctor said she was pregnant for 17 days, if that is an approximate number, could it be much more like say 20-30 days? Or even less like 10 days. Because I broke up with her last weekend without any of this information and we had only slept with eachother no more than 10 days ago, and prior to that was weeks. I know she had her period last month, and she was not pregnant then, so it would have had to happen within this prior month inwhich i barely saw her, and only slept with her about 3 times in the past week.
I really need answers to help me cope with this. I dont want to be suspicious of her and I believe her and will support her no matter what with this, ex or not. But too many facts just dont add up.
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Pregnancy can be detected as early as 10 days after, but its usually around 14 days.He may be estimating 17 days based on her periods, most doctors do and usually they are only about half right.It possible for her to be pregnant only about 10 days and trigger a test, especially if it was a multiple pregnancy...but its pretty hard for a Dr. to nail down a day - at best they can guess based on periods and whatnot...She would have to trigger a pregnancy test to have an abortion - I think you also have to be able to see the fetus to have an abortion (be a certain number of weeks along - but I'm not sure)...if she made this decision without you - what is she wanting from you now?
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ok, first and formost the Dr's get the date of conception from the first day of her last menstural cycle if you know that date then you can do the figuring and figure about 14-16 days later was the time of conception and then from there her due date. There is a slight catch to that theory pregnancy is usually calculated by doctors in
Lunar months in that is the case then it is a ten month time frame if it was figured in calander months it is 9 months. 17 days is almost to accurate by the time she would have missed her peroid and found out immediately she still would be about 4 weeks along not 17 days hope this helps
Thanx for all the replies so quickly. But if im getting this right, the 17 days would have to be after the missed period. According to her and the time frame, no period was missed. And she said she got the abortion the same day she found out she was pregnant, would this have any visual symptoms for me to see? She called me as if there was no care in the world just to say she got it done, she didnt seem at all flustered. Anyhow, its not about my suspicions on her i guess, because either way i feel responsible for her mental pain. But yes, she had her period last month, as in November, and we slept together mid December and now its only the 3rd of January, is it possible to have pregnancy symptoms and even test for that?
Here (in Alberta Canada) one cannot have a surgical abortion (eg d & c) until 7 weeks, otherwise one can have a medical abortion (induced by medication). I do not know the earliest that one can have a medical abortion. I doubt that based on a physical exam that a doctor can determine the exact amount of days your girl friend is pregnant, but that's just my thoughts.
I'm not saying that I know for any medical reason that she is, but I went to high school with several girls that lied about pregnancy and pregnancy loss (they usually told their best friend, who spilled the beans). Occassionally girls do this for attention. It is very possible, that she just wanted to have news for you, or some special bond that would draw you back. If you broke up with her and she really did have an abortion, you are the victim. Your rights as a father were not considered and you don't have to feel any guilt for the choice that she made. There just isn't any reason for you to carry on a relationship with someone who wouldn't even bother telling you that she was carrying your child until she wasn't. Don't be cold to her, she may have actually made a choice that she regrets, but you don't owe her anything!
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