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Ok, so I am in a difficult situation. I have two children. One who is almost two, and one who is 7 months. I want to know if it is possible to give my son up for adoption (7 month old) without having to give up my daughter (2 year old). I dont feel that I was ready for him to come along, and I feel he would be in better hands elsewhere. I love him, but I just think he needs someone else. I dont want to put him with the state. My husband was in state programs untill he was 18, and I dont wish that upon any child. I already know my family would not approve. But none of them are capable enough to take care of him. My mother has mentioned me signing my rights over to her, but I dont think she is capable. I care about my son enough to not put him with her, so what do I do? Someone out there please help me.
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You can choose to place your child with anyone, provided of course everything's legal and the family has been through a home study and all that. I'm sad for you that you don't feel you can effectively parent your son, but if this is truly what you want for your family, there are many, many loving families out there who would welcome your baby boy with open arms.
I would suggest you seek out some counseling - look in the phone book under adoption and you might find some help. If you choose to place your son, you have a lot of options when it comes to selecting parents for him. You can go through an adoption agency or you can find parents on your own.
Best of luck to you! I pray that you find a sense of peace throughout this whole process.
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I hope, if you're getting PM's - they don't violate our Terms of Service - which says that people can't send you messages offering to be a resource for you and your child. Please let me know if you get any such message.Yes, you can place your child with anyone you want - and it will NOT impact your parenting relationship with your daughter, provided you DO NOT go thru the state. I placed my second born child - while parenting my son. I urge you, however, to get some Post natal counseling before you decide - its possible you could be dealing with some depression.
Yes. It is absolutely possible to do what you are asking. It does not matter how old the child is, or whether or not there are siblings. Any parent is permitted to place any child for adoption at any time.
That said, though, there are some things to know. First, the father of the baby must agree to place the baby for adoption. And, you should realize that your daughter will experience a fair amount of grief when you place your son.
Take your time and check out many different agencies and/or lawyers. Each of them will be slightly different. And you do want your own lawyer from the start - you want to make sure that everything is done the way you want it, and that you don't get surprised by something down the line.
For the most part, any agency that can help a mother make an adoption plan for a newborn will be able to help you make an adoption plan for your 7 month old. The logistics and legalities will be very similar. So check out several before choosing one.
And one more thing, if you'll forgive me for mentioning it. If there is the slightest chance that you could be suffering from depression - either post-partum depression or depression brought on by other circumstances - then please see a doctor and have that possibility checked out and taken care of BEFORE you talk with any agencies or lawyers. Depression can make you think and do strange things. So check that out before you do anything else.
{{{HUGS}}}
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