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How do those who are adopted feel about their b-siblings?
My mother put a child up for adoption 5 years after she had me; I was raised an only child. I always knew about this other child; Mom carried a pic in her wallet. A number of years ago, the now-adult-daughter contacted our mother and they reunited. However, she (my half-sister) doesnt appear to want anything to do with me. Does that sound childish or what? She knows of my existence, as whenever they lose contact (they seem to have an on-again-off-again relationship), she calls me to get our motherҒs latest phone number. But thats all she wants; itҒs basically a hi-do-you-know-Momђs-phone-number-I-lost-it-thanks-bye. And then I never hear from her again until she needs another number (my mom moves a lot). I know I canҒt force the relationship, but I am tired of being an answering machine and each time she does this I feel slapped in the face. Or am I just being too sensitive?
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I am so sorry that she is treating you like this. I personally would love to know my b-sister, but unfortunatly my b-mom never told her about me. I also have reason to believe that if she found out, not only will it tear the family apart, she will not want anything to do with me. IMHO you are not being too sensitive and I feel that you should tell her how you feel. I personally think that it is very rude that she is only using you to get phone numbers.
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It hurts when I see stories like the two of you have about your bsiblings. One of the joys of my reunion has been watching the relationship develop between the siblings. D acts like their big brother and often initiates the calls, but they go both ways. I'm with Sniffles, I think you have the right to not be used simply as an address book. Sniffles, my other kids knew about their brother for years before I found them so they weren't surprised (or shocked) when D became part of our lives. I wonder how your bsister would have grown up if she'd always known of you. You're both in my thoughts and prayers.