GOD why have me raise her?

With each of our 4 adopted children I have asked the same question and been calmed by God's quiet presence. We cannot always know why God places people or situations in our lives. But we CAN be assured that He knows EXACTLY what He is doing. Our oldest son is 9. He is like your daughter, so thoughtful of others, so loving. He has NEVER raised his voice to me, argued with me, questioned us if we tell him "no" to something. Maybe he can answer your question best for you by the following story. When he was 5, he and I were driving somewhere. He's in his carseat and I am driving and he says "Mom, I think my birthmother must have been very special." And I say "I know you are right. What made you say that?" And he says "Because she SURE PICKED THE BEST MOMMY AND DADDY IN THE WHOLE WORD FOR ME." :love: OK, that was God talking through my child, telling me not to question God's plan but to continue to be the best possible parent to this very, very special child. Have you heard anything more from the court yet? Is it still looking really positive???????

I believe in my heart and soul God places the children with us for a reason. Rather it be for a month, a year, or forever for that period of time it was meant to be. I have prayed for God to send us an angel to adopt. Several situations were brought to our attention but nothing ever happened. I cannot tell you the amount of tears that fell from my eyes...We even went to adopt from our states foster care services and were simply told "there are no children in that age group for adoption" "If you want a child infant to 5 you need to go to an adoption agency". I walked away filled with tears...It seemed to me there should be a lot of children awaiting adoption. This is just not what I needed to hear. God placed an angel with us previously from 5 months to almost 5 years...we had no legal rights to this child, but decided to help out his mom. She promised adoption, but that never happened. As time went on we loved him so much adoption did not matter, only us being able to be with him. The mother would visit and take him occasionally but he was with us all the time. Eventually the father stepped in pulled him from us...I literally thought my world was ending..How could God do this??? God knew we loved him so much...Legally there was nothing we could do because nothing was ever done in court. The pain of losing him was so horrific. I prayed all the time. Luckily the mother would allow us to see him, he was our God child. In time things did work out, that little baby is now almost 13 years old..Unfortunately we never were able to adopt him...but God had other plans. At that time I fell apart never imaging this would happen. Its so hard to understand why sometimes...I ask that question over and over. Thank God we still are able to get him every weekend almost. This did work out not exactly how we wanted but we feel this was God's way...I always knew God would send me my angel..I knew that adoption was right for us. I continued to pray - Even with the possibilities being so almost impossible..Then one day out of nowhere we received a call that a birth mom heard of us, and was interested. Words cannot even begin to express the sheer joy we felt!!! Now we are in a contested adoption and once again face the possibility of "what if"...We strongly feel this is the baby God placed with us to adopt...We have so much faith that God will allow this to happen for us. Just know that God places angels with us for a reason..all we can do is love them to pieces..and give them the happiness they so much deserve..God will provide our strength and carry us day to day...There is no doubt in my mind that things happen for a reason...I believe in the power of prayer..I see my miracle and his little smile shows me God is at work everyday!!!:wings:

How sweet and precious your daughter is. I, too, have asked this question. I think I posted this information somewhere else - but here it is: My child has some special needs. He is the sweetest, gentlest, most loving child I could imagine. Since his birth he has needed some special care. He came into a family able and willing to meet those specific needs. It always seems odd to me when I think about it. It is like we were tailor-made for him. I have counseled children with special needs and his Daddy's personality is exactly what my son needs in a father. I can't imagine a better suited family for this particular child. How unique and special that GOD brought us together.