Open adoption families

Welcome. There are many forms of open adoption with varying levels of contact between the birthfamily and the adoptive family. Usually before the child is born, or after, really it doesn't matter, an expectant mom will look through profiles of prospective adoptive parents (usually through a matching site such as parentprofiles.com or an agency). The expectant mom will meet with a few couples she is interested and if she likes them she choses them. So, after the baby is placed with the adoptive family they can keep in touch with the birthfamily through visits, letters, pictures, etc. Whatever the two parties agree upon. Your daughter can know her new sibling. :)

Oh, I forgot to mention that it is against our rules here for anyone to contact you wishing to adopt your baby. If you recieve pm's or emails from people here wishing to adopt your baby please send them to me or one of the other mods.

Open adoption can work many ways. I'm still discovering all of the in's and outs. I have two open adoptions with my children's bmothers and one birth father. My children are 5 & 2. With the bmothers we choose to see each other 2 times a year. One birth father is sporadic depending on what he is doing in his life. Both birthmothers have other children. My daughter has contact and visits with her birth brother who is being raised by her bmother. My son's birth mother just had another baby and placed him with her aunt and uncle. He is now 3 months old and we will be meeting him next week for the first time. I never expected to go into an open adoption relationship with another family, other then my children's immediate bfamily.... but what can you do? The little guy was born and placed. He looks very much like my son except he is darker and my son is fairer. The resemblance is striking. Both my dh and I feel they should grow up knowing one another. So open adoption usually means open communication, usually visits but not always. Good luck on whatever you decide. :flowergift:

Open adoption works however the two families decide it works. Our adoption is fully open. My parented child, two years younger than my placed, has a relationship with his sister because we have visits every four months. It's vitally important to find a family that will be willing to have a fully open adoption if you want your two children to have a relationship. However, open adoptions are not legally binding in all states and can be closed by the adoptive family without warning or reason. Research your state's laws.