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This isn't to say I'm gonna run out and adopt them so no need to tell me I should adopt one kid at a time or anything... I'm just plain curious what's the biggest sibling group anyone has seen either adopted or available for adoption. I think the biggest I've seen so far is seven... Anyone beat that? :)
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Mongoose, I know you are really looking for my next group but I need a little more time to get the first ones finalized before I can consider another even larger. How about another year? Then I'll have the new house ready. LOLOur agency has placed 2 sibling groups of 7 but that is the largest I have seen placed together.
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I think often times there are large sib groups but through the flaws in the system, get split up. I know its hard to place sibs together in foster care....rarely do you have a home sitting empty or with 4-6 beds waiting. I know in our case w/ our 3 sibs, they would have been split up had we not 'just' got our license finalized that day. I cannot imagine what that would have done to them emotionally as they were already so confused and lost! They didn't speak any English at the time..we are one of the 2 Spanish speaking homes in our county (and its a HUGE) county. That was only 3 kids....and we were only licensed for two...they made an exception for 3. So for many people they may have one or two spots open, but can't take all the kids in a large sib group. Rarely do they put all the kids together in an adoption match b/c they are still hard to place together and often the sibling bond has broken after that long time. I think Tudu is awesome for taking in all her brood! So many large sib groups sit just waiting. I know in both cases we have, there are addtional siblings (one almost a year, one due this winter) but due to the bios, I'm guessing we'll never get those sibs. The 1 yr old bio of my sib group is MIA w/ bio mom, and the to be born one.....we are guessing that bio mom is going to take off again too if she hasn't already b/c they told her they would take that baby too. So while we'd love to take them in, I don't see it happening. Just my random thoughts for the day! :D
Tudu is the only one I "know" with a sibling group of more than 5!
Don't often hear of the 7 and larger groups, that's for sure. And it is sad that a split is at times the only way to provide families for children. I know a lot of times, siblings need to be split up for safety reasons, but sure hate to see it, even when it's the right thing to do.
When we adopted our 4, the people in the agency were just ecstatic...that it didn't happen often. Now when I look back on it, I think "4 really isn't that much...is it?" LOL!
I thought it was hard to place large groups, but currently we are hoping for a particular group of four and the CW told us that they are considering us and 3 other families! So maybe it's becoming more common for people to want to take in large sibling groups?
We have four empty beds in our house just waiting for a group right now, and we've got room to put another one in, but they only approved us for four. If they had found the perfect group of 5 and approved us we would have bought an extra bed. :)
DH and I want at least 10 kids eventually. I wonder sometimes how many other "crazy people" are out there who love the idea of a huge family like we do. After our oldest ones are grown we hope to adopt teenagers, too. So who know? Maybe we'll eventually be the parents of 12 or more. It wasn't unheard of back in pioneer days. It's more of a cultural things now to limit family size.
Jess
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Here in my town a sibling set of 10 came into custody in 2000. They did have to split them during foster care so 5 kids went to one family and the other 5 went to live with the foster mother's parents.
As can often happen with large sibling groups, when they went to adoption they all had different fathers so they were split up all over.
I was a foster child placed for adoption. I was a sibling group of 7. Of course this was over 30 years ago. The 7 of us were placed in 6 different homes - I lost 5 of my 6 siblings when adopted. Since I think it is great to keep siblings together whenever possible, I think it is fabulous when people are willing to consider large sibling groups. Samantha
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My hubby and I specifically decided to do foster care in order to work with sib groups. We're licensed for no more than 3 kids at this time, although our home is large and we have room(and beds) for up to 7. The agency has told us that we are their only home right now that could take a large sib group, and that if one comes along, they'll simply right an amendment to expand our license.
I think splitting kids has got to be the worst possible choice, unless there's sib-on-sib abuse occuring.
My husband and I feel the same way! We also have our home set up for up to 6 kids, but we're licensed for 3 (law for new foster parents in our state). However, sib groups are considered a group of 1 and thus would not be an issue for us to take more than 3.
Mrs_Butter_B
My hubby and I specifically decided to do foster care in order to work with sib groups. We're licensed for no more than 3 kids at this time, although our home is large and we have room(and beds) for up to 7. The agency has told us that we are their only home right now that could take a large sib group, and that if one comes along, they'll simply right an amendment to expand our license.
I think splitting kids has got to be the worst possible choice, unless there's sib-on-sib abuse occuring.