Do you need approval?

Some adoptee's need approval because they fear being rejected again, and again, and again. I am one. Kind regards,Dickons

Hey, I wasn't adopted and I was that way with my mom!

I am adopted, and I'm that way with my parents too! :camo: (mainly on avoiding things they won't approve of, not seeking approval) I've never attributed that to adoption (maybe it is), just the idea of why worry them, or irritate them when I'm 1000 miles away.

At almost 45 years of age I still don't tell my parents everything as I don't want to be "less" in their eyes. I'm not sure if it relates only to adoptees, although I'm not adopted so I can't speak about it. I only know that throughout my life I've spent a considerable amount of time trying to please everyone else and not disappoint them. In the long run, it has been exhausting and I don't think I'm any better a person because of it!

I guess I am just confused. My father raised me to be honest, even if the other person is not going to like it. For him it was about respect. I will not knowingly lie to anyone about anything. I don't, however, say things that could be hurtful without the absolute need to say it. Like if my friend was cheating on his wife, or visa versa, that is up to them. Now if they asked me straight out, that is another story. For my daughter, she tells me things she thinks I would want to hear, even if they are flat out lies, and while I am not angry with her, I wonder why she does it. That is why I asked. Thank you all again. sigh - lol:hypno:

I'm not in reunion, so maybe that facet of my personality would come out, but no... I don't tell my parents things they want to hear, or flat out lies. If my parents asked me something straight out, I'd tell them. I didn't volunteer when we got our 3rd cat, because they thought 2 was too many - that's what I meant by avoiding subjects. It sounds like your daughter is definitely attention seeking. Maybe that will go away with time.