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Writer Sonia Nazario published a piece in the L.A. Times regarding Open Adoption today. It's a two part piece on the OA Journey of one family, adoptive and biological collectively, and how it's impacted their lives.
The L.A. Times is hosting a chat with the family tomorrow (Monday) at 3 PM PST. - I urge our members to head over and take part in the discussion, following the publication of the final part of the story.
The story, [url=http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-adoption5aug05,0,2460525.story?coll=la-home-center]A pioneer in an experiment called open adoption - Los Angeles Times[/url] - uses first hand accounting of their journey, as told by all sides (The Child, the Adoptive Parents, The First Parents and close friends) - it's a two part series, with the second being published on Monday.
Feel free to share your comments, stories, opinions here as well as there. I can't wait to read the rest of the story, which promises to be a emotional tale of all sides and the feelings each sides has regarding their relationship dynamic.
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Ya, me too Jenna. One thing that Kendall said, which I have also said a number of times (and which I also find frustrating) is that she, as an adoptee in Open Adoption, she can't comment on what it would have been like to have a closed adoption.I wish those in closed adoption subscribed to that same 'thought' - I get so frustrated, as an adoptee raised in open adoption, seeing adoptees in closed adoption commenting about how confused they would have been and how frustrating it would have been.The reality is, it's all speculative. Only those who have lived it can comment on it.It sounded to me like she'd been faced with that attitude a lot (the speculator) because she had a very frank response to the one person who asked her if she prefered one over another.I wonder, if like me, she gets so frustrated at being silenced by those speculators, she often just keeps quiet…?I wish I had the ability to communicate directly with Kendall – I’d like to compare stories/talk about our situations and see how similar they are (emotion wise). She seemed like a big proponent of OA, regardless of the difficulties she faced…which are similar to my own feelings regarding OA and Adoption in general.
I find it interesting though that she says OA is the way to go, and yet she wouldn't know what a truly closed is like either, kwim? Just struck me as interesting since she commented she wouldn't know what it was like.
Often I think that both have "cons & pros" I guess, and like alot of things in life you deal with each as they come.
Jenna, I'm curious though so if you do have time to email me the chat transcript, I'd love it!:)
She also qualified it with "I think" - which I feel is important. The transcript is up on the site :)Link: [url=http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-openadoptionchat080607-transcript,1,3285217.story?coll=la-headlines-california]Sign Up[/url]If that doesn't work - go to chat.latimes.com and click on it from there :)
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Yes, I am busy. Frazzled, too, in dealing with people who want to try and make their story out to be The Reason That Openness Should Be Avoided! It's aggravating that people find a need to twist the words of this family to perpetuate their own agendas.That said, I wrote about yesterday's chat [URL="http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/index.php/weblogs/open-adoption-in-their-own-words"]on the blog here[/URL]. I hit on the topic mentioned just above by quoting the places where the members of this family state what they might have done differently and something that they simply would not have changed.If you do have problems getting the chat transcript for any reason, let me know. I have it in my inbox because Brandy has no life.
I thought your blog was really great Jenna, especially because you addressed the issue you just mentioned. YES thier story was full of hardships at times, but they did NOT jump ship like many seem to think might have been best.
Thanks for keeping this story in the positive spirit which the family intended.