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What do your children fight about the most?!! I only ask this question because I have come across a few interesting articles that really breaks down as to why many siblings tend to fight, tease or boss each other. I really wanted to find out if it is normal and healthy for a family to have some of the rivalry between brothers/sisters.
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Can I say all of the above when it comes to my SDs? At their mother's house there is NO respect for each other, so when they come to our house I am constantly overhearing bickering conversations...they do it in whispers at our house because they know it is not tollerated. Mostly not just your average bickering, but MEAN and belittling. At their mother's house they have an older sister and things are physical over there...pinning each other down and spitting on one another. I am one of 5 and never remember being so mean to any of them. DH has tried to talk to his EX, but is constantly told to butt out because it is HER house not his. We do what we can at our house and have limited it to the bickering and get on them when it turns so mean. There is nothing that they do not find to fight about. The boys are the best distraction to this because when all 4 of them are playing, the 2 are not fighting.
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It used to be over stuff and some of it still is, but now it's mostly over personal space. As my youngest said last week to his older brother..."STOP BREATHING MY AIR!";)
However...
If one gets a slightly bigger piece of something, the other says he should get 2. If one got 22 minutes of video game time instead of 20, the other is sure to set the timer for 23 min. If one doesn't share a toy then the next time the non sharer wants something, they bring up the previous time and bicker over that.
In other words...pretty much anything and everything there is to bicker about, they do!
We don't tolerate it much, but they still bicker. Then they bicker over chores they have to do for bickering.;)
They do actually get along more than not though and they generally will play well together. Goes in spurts and depends on the activity.
crick - do we have a cloned family? that sounds like my kids. Most of the "it's not fair" stuff is generated by dd11. She is highly competitive and is so afraid she may get less. Less of anything. To the point that if one of her brothers is misbehaving and getting negative attention she will misbehave MORE! lol
It is a lengthy article but I found interesting. Do I agree with everything? I don't know but it did help me understand alittle more. I felt that at times I was yelling at my kids and I don't like yelling. So I was looking for ideas, solutions and is it okay for the kids to act the way they do at times. [URL="http://www.macadopt.org/MACSite%20Folder/articles.htm#Part1"]part 1[/URL] [URL="http://www.macadopt.org/MACSite%20Folder/articles.htm#Part2"]Part 2[/URL] [URL="http://www.macadopt.org/MACSite%20Folder/articles.htm#Part3"]Part 3[/URL] [URL="http://www.macadopt.org/MACSite%20Folder/articles.htm#Part4"]Part 4[/URL]
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