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Does "the" bother you?
The birth mother.
The adoptive mother.
It bothers me - the has the same amount of letters as 'his' or 'her' - so using it isn't really reducing keystrokes...
I'm not quite sure how it makes me feel specifically - but it does bother me...a lot.
Not a big fan of 'the' - and just wondered how other first parents feel about it.
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Brandy, it bothers me as well and I have a hard time putting it into words as to why. I will try here. Saying "The birth mother" or "The adoptive mother" seems to take away the meaning of who "the birth mother or The adoptive mother" really is to the child. If you say "her/his birth mother or her/his adoptive mother" it makes that person more meaningful in the life of the child.
I don't know if that is what I mean or not.....*sigh*
Does it make any sense to you?? LOL
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True true! It irritates me from BOTH sides - heck...take adoptive or birth away and just have it say 'mom'...
The mom bothers me JUST as much!
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I think it kind of falls under "it" when referring to a child that has not yet been identified by gender and is not yet born. It's a way of removing attachment, whether consciously or subconsciously.
Not a fan, particularly, of either.
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Yeah what Mommy said.
I really don't care for it. Don't understand why it needs to be used IMO.
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I too don't care for "the", for me I think it comes from when we were little and our parents used to call my sister "the smart one" and me "the pretty one" and my brother "the successful one". None of which is true as I think my sister is much more attractive than me and after grade school my brother surpassed us both in most courses. Labelling always got to me.
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