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Coley's blog post [url=http://open.adoptionblogs.com/index.php/weblogs/challenges-that-come-up-during-school]Open Adoption Blog - Challenges that Come Up during School[/url] had me wondering if any of our open adoption birth/first moms have been asked to share their family tree for their birth child's school project?
I'm also curious to know how different schools deal with the whole "family tree"/geneology issue and if they are open to encorporating both birth and adoptive or non-biological family trees.
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Brenda I would love to see the family tree you have developed.
I have alot of experience doing genograms as well and I think they are a much more effective way to show families and emotional connections than a family tree is. But then again the purpose of a family tree is to trace blood lines.
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I was a Cub Master for Cub Scouts for 5 years. One of the requirements is that the boys do family trees. I had a situation where I had a boy in my group named Brandon. He was Native American, and in foster care with a caucasion family. This family was going through the process of terminating the bio-parents rights so they could adopt not only him, but 2 siblings as well. Being Native American, the foster parents, K & B, were battling with the Tribe. I don't know much about how it all works, but apparently the Tribe can block the adoption if they do not approve. Anyway, I called K and told her we were going to do a family tree. I told her that it didn't matter to me if she used her family information for this project, since she was going to adopt. K then did the neatest thing: she contacted the Tribe and explained what was going on. Then she worked with the Tribe to make a "first family" and "forever family" dual tree. That way, Brandon would always know his first relatives and his new relatives. This helped Brandon understand how all of the new family fit together: ie, "new" great aunt is like "original" great aunt, etc. The Tribe then decided that since K contacted them wanting info for Brandon, and that K wanted to keep his Native American side of his family in his life, that K & B would be excellent parents...they released all 3 children to be adopted. Their adoption was finalized last December. I'm sorry this was so long, but I think it's such a neat way for foster/adoptive/birth relatives to work together for the good of the child. Being adopted myself, I always HATED the whole family tree assignments in school.