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Hey girls -
So this has been weighing heavily on my mind the past few days. What I'm wondering is how you told your placed child's family about a future pregnancy? When did you tell them and how did you tell them?
Thanks!
When John and I were thinking of adopting - and moved forward, we told both M and her parents and all of them were really excited about having another child in the family.
When we decided not to go that route - they were supportive and understanding.
When we found ourselves pregnant unexpectedly last spring, they were again very excited - then we we lost the pregnancy - they were again supportive and understanding.
M and her parents have been our biggest 'building our family' cheerleaders - M has always been excited about having a baby brother or sister...and her parents have also been equally excited.
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Thanks you guys - I know they will be happy for us. I'm sure they've been expecting this for a while.
So is it a good idea to tell his parents first and then make a plan together to tell T and his sister E?
I would think so Tara! I would definetely want to know first - just so I could jump up and down with glee!! :)
Thanks Nat - right now things are fairly early and I'm too cheap to buy a home pregnancy test if I don't have to - so we'll wait a few days and if nothing happens then I'll buy a test and know for sure. :)
I would say tell them when you tell family, since you have a really good relationship it should all be positive!!
And I think it's a great idea to tell the parents first and then together tell T and his sis.
Thinking great thoughts for you!!! :)
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Tara,
Here's :happydance: (they don't have a crossed fingers) hoping that if the timing is right for you that you are pregnant! I don't want to say it to loud yet.
When you talk about your bsons family you seem to always have a great connection with them. I would be wanting to tell them when I was telling everyone. The more support you have the better. Keep us posted.
Thanks so much for your support and advice. While we weren't planning this, I'm kind of hoping that I am pregnant.
:) Will keep you posted.
Hey Tara! Life is good, it sounds like :dance:
That's my special "IF" dance for you, LOL.
I would definitely share the news first with T's parents. I am sure they will be thrilled for you guys and for T, so I don't think that is going to even be an issue. My only reason for suggesting you tell them before T is to get a handle on just how much the kids know about the birds and the bees. My oldest is pregnant (yes, I am going to be a Grandma!) and it has brought on LOTS and LOTS of questions from Billy and Lexi. Some of them I was prepared for, others I was not. This way, none of you will be caught off guard........though, I will admit it is so darn cute when they DO catch you off guard!
Thanks Billysmom - wow girlie - you are totally not old enough to be a grandma. Congratulations!
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Aww, thanks Tara! According to dh, I will be "the hottest grandma out there", so I'm running with that title, LOL.
I went through this a year and a half ago..... I told them that I had some news but I was nervous to tell them.....and H (AM) told me to just rip it off like a band aid..... so I said 'I'm pregnant!' and they were thrilled for me..... My last visit before I had my son, H told me to call her the day he's born and share all the details...... so I did, and she was so excited for my husband and I........ Good luck!!! I'm sure they will be happy for you
Tara!! Don't want to start the celebration wagon too early, but can I send out the IF wagon??
To answer your post I guess, I agree with the other posters...tell apaps and then tell T!
And IF, then how exciting!
I hope you'll keep us all posted on what becomes of this IF!!!
And just one banana cause I can't help myself! :banana:
Thanks guys - but there is no pregnancy. :(
But, this question still is on my mind as we are planning on having more kids in the future.
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