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Here I am again looking for answers...
I Darcy/Loveccl a senior member on here am so completely clueless. Long story short I fell inlove we decided together that we wanted to have a family and I go pregnant after a MC. Now I am just over 3 months pregnant and about to be a single mom in 6 months. I feel like I am 15 again...ready to move on from a relationship, no job (I have been really really sick) , I am about to be evicted and move in with friends (something I don't want to do) and my relationship has all but ended tonight. I have not even seen a doctor because i have no medical insurance. So he lied and has not worked for 2 months. We barely eat and even ran out of laundry detergent.
Do I do it...do I move in with friends, leave what could have finally been my family and think about adoption for my baby. I'll be 30 in a few months and this is not what I ever expected.
Times like this it sucks being a foster kid/birthmother/etc... because I have no direction that won't hurt.
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First of all (((((hugs))))). Only you know what is best for you and your unborn baby. If you want to parent you can. There is assistance and this seems to be a temporary set back, no? You don't have to be married to raise your baby, yes it would be nice if you were in your own place, but is it a safe place to live? That is all you need for now, something safe. As for prenatal care, you have no job, no income, you would surely qualify for some state funded help there, ie....medicaid, wic, etc..You say your sick, is it just morning sickness that is making you sick? If so it is possible that it will subside soon and then you could get back to work. Once baby is here you can apply for daycare assistance as well. Where there is a will there is a way, I truly believe that. PM me if I can help find resources in your area.
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Wow! You have sooo much going on right now. Darcy, you know your own situation best, so I can't say if you should move in with friends or not. What I can say is, there are many programs offered by the state and county for someone in your situation. Call your county public health department and the state department of health & social services. There is help available for you. Call the crisis line if you need to, but please reach out and connect with services offered in your area. Take good care of yourself...
Hugs from Susan
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Darcy, First, take a deep breathe or two! While you may feel like you are 15 again, you are not. You have far more resources available to you now than you did then, including experience. I don't know where you live, but many places have women's health services available to those who don't have insurance. Moving in with friends may be a temporary solution until you get everything pulled together. In my state, you situation would put you at the head of the line for public housing. As the others say, there are lots of programs available. We're here to listen and support. Try not to panic! You can figure this out.