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As an adoptee growing up I was raised in a loving family that honored God and were faithful church attenders. I was thankful to be in a caring adoptive family and loved my adoptive parents. But not until I was an adult and pondered my adoption, did I see the evidences of God's hand on my adoption journey. I now see that God protected my life in the womb of my birth mom who was in fragile health with cancer and an addiction to alcohol. I was born healthy and whole 2 mos early which seems like a miracle- especially in the 1950's. I feel God's hand of safety on my life, that I was not aborted due to the risk put on my birth mother's life to deliver me.
God brought friends into my life that became very close and intimate friends who were also adoptees. When I was in high school I found out that my best friend Jodie was an adoptee when we shared our "secret" with each other at a sleepover party and realized we both were adopted.Though apart in distance we still send each other cards and e-mail each other.
After I got married and began a family my husband and I began attending a new church. I was asked to teach Sunday school to preschoolers and became very good friends with the team teacher Lee Ann I was placed with who was an adoptee. Our friendship grew and we enjoyed many years together before her death from cancer 5 years ago. When my husband's job location moved us from Illinois to Ohio it was a scarey and lonely move for me. I met some dear friends at the church we began attending. One of my closest friends I also found out was an adoptee. That was special to me. In another move for my husbands job to Indianapolis IN, I met another adoptee and we became close friends. We began an adoptee newsletter together and now she is an adoption author- Sherrie Eldridge. At the time I met Sherrie I discovered that there was a local adoption triad support group meeting at a local hospital near us. I began attending and found such close fellowship with other birth mothers, adult adoptees and adoptive parents. During this time I searched and found my birth family- 3 older birth sisters who never knew about me. I feel God lead me to attend the group to find emotional support and encouragement for my reunion journey. After attending and helping out with the group I was encouraged to become a co-leader of the group. My husband's job moved us again but this time back to Illinois "our home". Finding no adoption groups in the area, I prayed and felt God leading me to begin a local adoption support group. In September this group will have been meeting for 10 years and over 300 persons have come through our group at different times for short and extended times. Most meetings serve 8-10 attendees. I also published Adoption Blessings Journal, a free outreach faith-based publication for 9 issues that shared stories of faith, healing and encouragement by adoptees, birth parents and adoptive parents.
God has blessed my life through my adoption and friendships with others touched by adoption. My life has been enriched by serving those touched by adoption and encouraging them in their journeys. I believe God had a special plan to allow my adoption to be a stepping stone for ministry. I am now praying as my nest empties and all my sons become independent that I may find more ways to serve the adoption triad through possible employment,
service and education to those within and outside of the adoption world.
How have you seen God's fingerprints in your adoption journey?
Thanks Joellen and Kdecrow for sharing God's hand in your adoption journeys. Kdecrow, I am so sorry for your finding death at the end of your adoption search- I too found my birth parents both deceased when I "found" but did meet 3 lovely birth sisters. Though I went through the sadness of never meeting my birth parents- my birth sisters shared alot about them to me through stories and photos that I cherish. I hope you too will have a chance to meet your sons relatives in his adoptive family and learn more about his life. Interesting about the Mark 3:33 connection- God is a creative God and reveals his ways and plans to us in ways we would never figure out. Our Creator God is amazing. Joellen, your adoption story sounds much like mine - I was raised in a wonderful Christian adoptive family and I still have a very close and loving special bond with my adoptive mom who is 85 and is a loving woman of God. I feel very blessed! My adoptive father passed away over 10 years ago and my sister through adoption died last year.
Thanks all for sharing and I hope we hear more stories of God's fingerprints in others adoption journeys!
Jody
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Do any other adoptees or birth parents, adoptive parents have any faith stories to share on their adoption journey?
I love reading testimonies of adoption and God's fingerprints on the lives of those touched by adoption. Please share!
Blessings, Jody
I just saw your post and I had to add my journey.
In 2005 at 37 years of age I was diagnosed with colon cancer and my relationship of 7 years ended. If you have ever faced a serious diagnosis you can understand the emotions of having to face your mortality at 37 years of age. I felt like I hadn't even begun my life. I did not have children, no prospects of a husband and felt like my life had no real meaning.
I began my spiritual journey and I can tell you from the minute I turned to God my life changed. I decided to stop living for myself and live for God - my foster parenting was not becauseof a void I felt in my life but more that I wanted to leave something positive behind. My first foster child - I am now adopting - I got her when she was two weeks old and she is now 13 months old. And to top that off I got engaged two days after I got her. My fiance has been involved in her life since day one.
So my whole life has changed -
God Bless
Jody M
Do any other adoptees or birth parents, adoptive parents have any faith stories to share on their adoption journey?
I love reading testimonies of adoption and God's fingerprints on the lives of those touched by adoption. Please share!
Blessings, Jody
I certainly do :love:
My bmom was born with a bad heart. She was supposed to have a series of operations to correct this over her growing up years, but for some reason only had one when she was about 4.
She was about 20 when she got pregnant for me, unwed and from a prominent Catholic family and community. The family doctor said it would be in her best interest to abort, due to health reasons. She fought and won, bless her heart and thank God.
I was in a foster home for about 9 months before I could be "free" to be adopted due to legal/money issues between my bparents. Because of that, my bmom was asked if she would like to give me a name. She chose Mary Monica, after her older sister who was a nun - Sister Mary Monica - believing that by giving me this name would help God to protect me better.
My a/parents were told there would be a baby for them, but not available for a couple of months. They fought over names as most couples do. One night, my a/mom who is a staunch Catholic herself - woke up in the middle of the night with an announcement to make to my a/dad. She said "Her name is to be Mary Elizabeth." So, I was given that name and is my name today.
When it came time to pick me up, the nuns at the foundling home were concerned a little about my being 9 months old and changing my name. So, they asked my a/parents what name they had chosen. When my a/parents told them - my a/mom remembers a funny look, then a huge smile from the Sisters saying everything will be fine then.
During my adolescence and subsequent rocky teen years, there were times when my a/mom swore the only reason I survived certain things was divine intervention. She always had said I must have a guardian angel with me every minute.
Later, after searching I found out the things I mentioned regarding my bmom ie: naming me, her medical situation, the fight to give birth to me etc - but I also found out that
1. My aunt who was a nun - Sister Mary Monica, her God given name (real name) is Mary Elizabeth as well as my great grandmother's and a cousin
2. My bmom died when I was only 7 which we did not know until search was completed - and I was about 7 when I started having accidents and things that other kids would not have survived, and my a/mom declared I must have a guardian angel.
So yes, I truly, truly believe I am exactly where I am supposed to be - the path given to me by God Himself. I used to question why then, did my bmom die b4 I got to meet her. That answer is simple, so she could protect me. Which does give me great comfort but I still struggle with missing her.
Thanks Lynae and Marnie for sharing your special adoption testimonies and God's hand in your stories. So encouraging to hear stories of hope and encouragement. Thanks for sharing with all of us - it inspires us and gives us hope in our journeys. Blessings to you and thanks for sharing here!
Jody
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I truly believe that Jesus had his hand on my life from the moment of my conception. I was the only one out of four children that my bmom had (I'm the 2nd oldest) to be adopted out. I was adopted by wonderful Christian people and have never looked back even once. If possible, and I know that this may certainly sound strange, it is as though God selected my bmom to carry me and care for me in the womb, but selected my parents to be the flesh of my flesh and bone of my bone. It is as though they are my soulmates and we were meant to be together from when time began. Recently, my biofam has located me and I was saddened to hear of the grievous childhoods of my siblings. Why was I the only child blessed to be adopted out? God will only know. . . I have recently since college fallen away from going to church and have often felt distant from the Lord. . and after discovering the background of my family, I'm filled with a certainty that God is closer than ever to me and has had a real and personal hand on my life. I have shed many tears over the past couple of months at the grace that has been shown to me. . . if possible, I love my parents more than ever, I love my life more than ever, I love my husband and my children more than ever. . . I see everything so clearly now! I take a lot less for granted now!
Hi Idaho nurse and thanks for sharing your adoption reunion journey with your birth family. Your adoption journey is very similar to mine, being raised in a great adoptive family and then reuniting as an adult. I also found that my birth siblings had a challenging childhood. Both of my birth parents had issues with alcohol and after I was born, my birth mother abandoned the family. It was life-changing to meet my 3 birth sisters and have them welcome me into their lives 15 years ago. My reunion also filled my heart with gratitude for the family I was blessed to be raised by. It humbled me to realize that "by the grace of God there go I". Knowing that I could have been one of the daughters who stayed in the family, made me realize that I would be a different person, had I not been adopted. How could I ever judge another person again? Children do not choose the circumstances of birth and/or adoption that shape their lives. They do not have control over their past or the adults decisions that impacted their future. But as adults we do have the choice to strive to understand our past and reframe our attitudes with the truth we learn. As an adoption triad support group leader for 13 years, I have witnessed that some adoptees become either "bitter" or "better" when learning about their birth/adoption history. But as many of them attend support groups and meet birth parents and adoptive parents, they come to understand the circumstances that created a need for their adoption. Many come to an acceptance of the past- the final stage in grieving a loss and heal and walk to the future with a new emotional freedom.
It is always encouraging and inspiring to read about God's fingerprints in adoption journeys. Through the joys and pain/loss of adoption God brings healing and hope. Have you seen God's precious fingerprints in your adoption journey? Please share,
Blessings, Jody
Thank you for sharing your story. May God continue to bless you, because you are definately a blessing to others.
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Thanks for your encouragement aneedtoknow. God's blessings to you on your continued adoption journey!
Blessings, Jody
i love hearing how your birthfamilies have come into your lives so beautifully:grouphug:tku for sharing ..gives me a bit of hope
wow. that gave me chills. God is good. He is always with us. I have woken up a few times lately and saw that the clock was 3:33. I usually pray until I fall back asleep when that happens.
We are at the beginning our journey and God has truly shown that his hand is upon us.
We were a week away from starting our foster to adopt classes when I happened to join an adoption support group on Yahoo. In that group was an announcement of a little girl that needed a home. It was posted in October of 2009 and it was December 27th. I though for sure that this child had found a home. I emailed and found out that she has not found her forever family. I spoke with her caretaker and found that she lives only one state away. We wanted to adopt but I prayed that God would send us a child who was not so scarred that they could not love or trust us. Little did I know that his plan was to send us a child in our path who that is all she needs, parents who can love just her for a while.
We emailed back after recieveing pictures of this princess to say that we want to come meet her. Being a military family I called friends who recently moved to the state that our child is in. We found out that they live 5 miles away... Never in a million years did I think that I would be visiting our dear friends, while getting to meet "E" for the first time.
This is all moving so fast, yet I know when you pray and ask God and are dilligent and faithful he answers your prayers. We go to meet "E" next weekend. I will keep everyone up to date on how God is moving in this situation.
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Pennies from Heaven, though this is an adoptee forum here we welcome testimonies of adoption! May God bless you as you pursue adoption and meeting this precious little girl for a second time. God is a God who does surprise us and orchestrates things in beautiful and mysterious ways. May He bless you on this exciting journey and I pray that "E" will be adopted into a forever family that will embrace her, provide for her spiritually, see her emotional inner needs and financially. Thanks for sharing! Blessings, Jody
Pennies from Heaven, though this is an adoptee forum here we welcome testimonies of adoption! May God bless you as you pursue adoption and meeting this precious little girl for a second time. God is a God who does surprise us and orchestrates things in beautiful and mysterious ways. May He bless you on this exciting journey and I pray that "E" will be adopted into a forever family that will embrace her, provide for her spiritually, recognize her emotional inner needs and also provide for her financially. Possibly your family Pennies from Heaven! Thanks for sharing! Blessings, Jody