battles from within

Thank you feeling, for mentioning:I have heard so many people take that out of context and believe it means we are condemned due to our parents sins. I believe you hit the nail on the head. Children suffer from the choices their parents make, but they are not accountable for that sin (which is how I took what you said, and sorry if I'm putting words in your mouth, not trying to!)

Ani, that is exactly what I meant. Every choice we make as a parent should be made with the realization that it affects our children. They will suffer due to our bad choices. They will prosper in health and spirit due to our good (Godly) choices. Atleast that is what I believe. I, too, have heard people say that verse in a way that makes it sound like the children are held accountable for their parents sin. I do NOT believe that is the case at all. The Bible tells us that we will be held accountable for OWN sin. We will be rewarded for our OWN good deeds. Not in those exact words, but you know what I mean. Also, while we are on the subject, if a person was held accoutable because of their parents sin that would be unfair. God is NOT an unfair God. He is a Loving God. He judges everyone equally. It's not His fault, nor is it our children's faults when we fail. The fault lies with us and we need to be able to reconize that so we can get down on our knees and ask God to grant us the strength and wisdom to do better. And if it's sin we have in our lives thats causing us to fail, we need to ask for forgiveness and TURN from that sin. Not just for our own spiritual well being, but for our beloved children and family.

Amen, sister! ;)

Rsbq (((hugs)). It IS hard to wait on a flawed system.Instead of trying to cope, run to your Heavenly Father and ask for Him to bear this burden and to cause you to be able to do what He has called you to do. Waiting patiently on Him, knowing that He will show you what to do at just the right time. I was SO discouraged at times during the adoptions of our children. We'd been not chosen by committee 4 different times before we were matched with our oldest son. I know that God was holding us in reserve, so to speak, so that when our son was ready for adoption we were there ready to be matched. Knowing that God was in charge was what we clung to, because we knew if we put our trust in men we would be doomed to disappointment! God knows the desires of our hearts and cares for each of us. He knows what is ahead and is weaving all the threads into the beautiful tapestry He is constructing of our lives. Be patient as you go through the trials of waiting and dealing with all the trials that go along with adopting a waiting child.

Barksum, I enjoy reading your posts so much. You are very insightful.

LOL Feeling! If you could just SEE my house, and the clutter in my soul, as well!! :D What I write is a reminder to myself most of the time!

It's OK Barki. We love you anyway. :love:Right now I'm just trying to keep from killing the 6 year old who has had "cranial rectalitis" today and was just kicking my portable diswasher. :hypno:

I agree! I like reading your perspective, Barki.

Thanks everyone. And Ani, you have me in tears. Thank you so much! Your offer means so much to me. I do hope we can meet one day, you are such an inspiration! I am going to get my bible out tonight (I have not done that in a LONG time) and read. That always makes me feel better. Zebra, your cranial rectalitis comment, that made me spit my diet coke out! haha Thanks, I needed that!

LOL, Zebra's Cranial rectalitis comment made me think of my 6 year old, and my 3 year old at times, too. ;)

rsbg, that's our code around our house.Ani, I saw that you're in East Texas. Can I ask where? RSBG, are you in Texas too??My hubby was born and raised in Austin and we lived in Dallas and Houston for the early part of our marriage. I haven't been back in over 3 years and I'm going nuts for a Texas fix.

I'm NE of Dallas, about an hour away.

and I'm about 15 minutes closer to dallas than Bajj!

Oh, you're both making me jealous. I need a Dallas fix badly!!!

{{{rsbg}}}, I know the process is so frustrating and at times can wear us down. It was similar to our infertility. I really believe that for us it was getting us to be where we needed to be to be what our dd needed. There is so much heartache in adoption with failed matches, placements, and in the foster to adopt world...ARGH! We went that route and decided at the time that it wasn't for us. I hope that you found comfort in your Bible. It is my greatest source of hope during the rough times. I love my friends and family, but God knows my pain and can lead me through it.