Feel Like I Should Do More

Yes and no. We have always done a lot of civic work, including church stuff, and we've scaled back since H was born for that same reason---we want the time with him. However, I also think that children learn from the example we set, so I don't want to give it up entirely, I want him to think that doing work in your community (however you define that) is an expectation. I'll tell you what's helped a little is that I've refocused some of the type of activities I get involved in---now I try to do things that are more centered around children's causes so that I can include H in some of it (for instance, no one minds if I bring him w/ me to a meeting for our adoption agency's fundraiser.) Could you volunteer in the church nursery so you could have Kelcee with you?

Don't forget too, that your church likely has services they provide to the community that are often family related. Food bank drives, making food or delivering things to shut ins, visiting etc. So maybe it's not helping the church directly, but it's still a devotion of your time.:)