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This poster is a pot-stirrer and is purposefull MEAN, but he does it in a way that you can't really "call him out" on it- kwim?. He is very subtle and I can't figure out what his agenda is. He seems to have an axe to grind and he seems to be grinding it in the faces of people who are hurting.
It's kind of hard to explain if you just read a few of his posts it might not seem that bad. In particular he seems to pick on a couple of specific posters (people who are in fact struggling right now).
Originally he came on as someone interested in "helping kids" and adopting from foster care, now he says he's also a former foster child. I don't know if he's a troll or just someone who wants to stir up the pot. But he is really making things unpleasant on the SN boards. It's more than just disagreements or differences of opinions.
I have waited many days to post this because I was thinking I was being sensitive because he is picking on "my people" and maybe I am biased. Perhaps someone else can look into it and offer an opinion. I'm not sure we can do anything anyway. But at least I got to express my frustration!
This mornings post that bothered me is from this thread
[url]http://forums.adoption.com/special-needs-adoption/320149-teaching-independence-resistant-teen-3.html[/url]
"think ya might be missing out on somethin...i think you should try and convince the other kids that have spent time in the house to go and do some group counseling with him...without any parents there. see if everyone can talk honestly about what their experience was like. maybe its just not a good match. i think i read in a post someone mentioned that finding a home that understands kids issues and can work with them is whats needed"
He's basically telling the op she's not a good parent for this kid and he should be in a better home - The op has parented this child for years and her original question was just asking if anyone had any ideas to help him. I'm pretty sure his posts aren't against TOS but is it really necessary to be that mean? I don't know maybe there is nothing that can be done - I just wanted to voice my concern.
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Suz~You and I could ban together and torture him? I hear ya.....he is a PITA and unfortunately I think he knows exactly how to "walk the line" which makes me believe he is a "reincarnation" of a banned member, any thoughts on who that might be? Frustrating, but know I am watching him too.
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I want to reach through my computer screen and strangle him.I am one of the posters that he is against (lucky me). And I have a theory on him (could be wrong). I think he is an adult with RAD. In fact, he has admitted that to several posters in PMs. Anyway, he is acting just as a RAD person would act. Baiting people, knowing the buttons to push, going just far enough to not be in violation of TOS. Notice he is attacking the parents of RAD children, the ones who see him for what he is. JMO.I so want him to cross the line and get banned. I am afraid that I will get myself banned, so I am trying not to respond to him, although I don't succeed very well.
Momchelle - If we tortured him we might end up in jail- might be worth it though to get him to Shuttheheckup :rolleyes:
Lorraine - Is he mean in his PM's? I know he's pm'd you and a few others I'm sure he disagrees with. If he's attacking in pm's isn't that against TOS? BTW his last few posts to you made me cry. I can't imagine how hard this is for you!
"I think I read somewhere...." didn't Lucyjoy make a comment on the sexual abuse sibling thread saying something to the effect that if a pre adoptive parent cannot handle something, perhaps it's a case of finding a different home where a more experienced parent can work on the issues? So he's now posted on Lucy's thread to quote but not quote her and throw it back in her face?
I'm going to do a post history search and if that is what he is doing, just going around and picking out things he's read elsewhere in order to throw it back in their face on another thread, I'm not going to allow that. If he wants to say it directly "I know you said elsewhere that you believe xxx and xx, do you think this can be applied to your situation?", that's one thing because she can respond to it directly, but this underhanded way....he can just come back with "I never quoted you, you are reading too much into it" and I see too much of that game with him.
What kind of pm's is he sending to people and are they responses to pm's or is he targeting people? If people send him a pm, he has a right to respond although he does have to follow the rules of course. I need more info on the pm situation though. Personal PM's between members is often a case of a disagreement between members and I don't get involved in that. If they don't like each other etc., I don't mediate the personal issues. If it's a forum rule situation, attacks etc., I can...but I find that both parties are usually guilty of it not just one. So if someone sent him a pm borderline attacking him....then they are just as guilty and I would have to moderate both. Which is why the personal arguments in Pm's are usually left to be worked out between the members.
I'll look into it more in depth after I get my kids off to school.
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Thanks guys. Its good to see that others see it too. I felt like I was just paranoid at first. His PMs to me have not been threatening. One I thought maybe could be and I sent it to Crick and she said that he was just being an ****. He did send me a PM and asked me not to PM him again. So I won'tSee, I just responded to his latest jab. I have no self control.
Momchelle - I'm in! But let's go to some sort of "retreat jail" where we can escape our Zoos/Homes (remember I have 4 kids too :) ) but also get facials, pedicures and shop online!
I have NOT responded to Hiatusisstupid at all because i'm afraid of what I would say. But seriously if he keeps it up I'm going to lose it and probably get ugly!
I have to take Em to the Doc at 10:30. I think a CM needs to really watch that thread as a few posters have responded to him directly and I'm sure he's just waiting to hit back. Also, he edits his posts ALOT almost every single one, it's frustrating cuz he says something but then changes it just a bit. Anyway.......