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OK, I'm hoping one of you has already been through this and can help. H's first nanny, who is very, very dear to us, is getting married on Saturday. H (26 mo.) is to be the ringbearer. Now, obviously she knows what his skill levels are---she still sits for us occasionally. And she's getting married in the same church H has been going to since he was born. And I think she's prepared for the possibility (probability) that he's not exactly going to do a parade march up the aisle. And, finally, the cathedral won't let little kids really carry the rings anyway---so the wedding rings are safe. Anyone done this before? Any tricks to try to get him down the long aisle up to the front w/ me? (I am not in the wedding, but I'll be sitting up front.)
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We been there before, too and it is likely he will stop short, hide his face or go to people he recognizes in the pews but don't worry most people will find it hilarious! Sometimes seeing Mom at the end of the isle helps coax them down - I usually crouch down and call them by name, if necessary. I've even seen Mom (or Dad's) that have had to walk up the isle to get the little ones. I wouldn't worry about it too much - I'm sure the bride won't be upset if he doesn't march straight down, she likely won't even see it happen...just be prepared to laugh your head off!
It sometimes helps to have them attend the rehersal though and to have someone stand with him right before he goes down that will say - now just walk down to Mommy might also help.
Have fun and take lots of pictures!
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I had 5 flower girls...3 were the same age...about 4, the other 2 were just over 2. It was hillarious. My neices walked up. The older trying to get her sister up there while she walked half way down, turned around and ran back the other way then crawled back up the isle on her hands and knees. When my s-daughters went up, the older was trying to hurry the younger along because she was SO focused on dropping the petals one at a time and the little silk petals kept sticking to her fingers so she would take a step, pick one out, flick it off, then take another step and do it again. It was a very funny thing and I think something that guests kind of anticipate.
My oldest son was ringbearer when he was 24 months old. We had a groomsman with a hotwheels for him. He went up there, got his toy, and came and sat in my lap!He was a ring bearer again when he was 3. This time, someone had an airplane for him and he went up there, got it, and was doing great until my Mom kept saying, "come sit down, come sit down!" GRRRR!It's fine if he doesn't stay up there. It does help if someone has something for him. I'm not sure if I'd try food just because he will be messy in pictures, then. ;)
I agree with the bribe tactic.I had two ringbearers and three flower girls. All between the ages of three (just barely) and six. I had them all walk up together. The boys rang bells and the girls had flower petals. They all went at their own pace and it was just hilarious. We made it very clear to all of them that once they got to the end of the aisle they could do whatever they wanted. The older ones stood perfectly, the three year old girl ended up being held by one of my bridesmaids and the three year old boy ended up sitting in the grass (we got married outside) beside DH and singing his ABCs. It was fantastic.It all comes down to kids will be kids and people do expect that. And since the bride is a professional who works with kids, I'd say she knows too. So don't sweat it too much mom, enjoy the wedding and look at it this way. If he does do something quirky, it'll be a great story to tell when he starts dating. :arrow:
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