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I've been here a few weeks now and I realized I have never truly introduced myself to the community.
I'm 18, fixin to turn 19, and I am an adoptee in reunion with my birth mother's family and waiting for contact from my birth father's side. I recently started my second semester of college and I have been completely stressed out for the past two weeks more than ever. I found out that my birth father had told his entire family that I had been aborted. So I could handle that. Sure. This morning I received a phone call and I am being sent to see a gynecologist in 2 1/2 weeks.
I don't say this to get pity, but so that you know where I stand today.
I keep praying my birth father will want to contact me because I have quite a few questions for him.
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First, take a couple of deep, slow breathes. Let your whole body relax. Do not panic. Deal with what today brings! (Jesus said, Don't worry about tomorrow, concentrate on the challenges of today.)
God be with you!
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I found out that my birth father had told his entire family that I had been aborted.
Sweetpea..That was said so many years ago.. and it was not about you as a person it was about the situation..
Heck I looked for an abortion and decided against it.. I do not think that hurts my bson.. I think and hope he knows that I was in a panic..
Wanted being pregnant to go away..
Birthfathers were left out of it in those days.. or heck are still left out.. so it may have been a way for him to stop thinking about what had happened.. a way out..
All of us say and do things that are self preserving.. no blame..
Jackie
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I realize that, I just wish I knew why..
In my time men were the bad guys.. the ones that messed around and there were no consequences..
Ha..
Women were tramps if they had sex and not married.. but men were sowing wild oats..
I think it is part of our culture now.. or was a few years ago.. we need to change this thinking..
I do my best to work on the changing..
But then I am guilty of messing with the names and memories of the birthfather of my bson..
Something I regret..
Jackie
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I don't know exactly what you're talking about Jackie but I'm sorry.
I've been searching for the past week for another forum, not for adoption, but for the other situations in my life and I've yet to find a good one.
I'm the one that you would've called the tramp...
And I know I'm a terrible person and that I'm so stupid, but I wanted to be loved, I wanted someone who wouldn't abandon me....
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