Were you born in 1990?

curious any adoptees here 18 and looking to reunite?

Hi, I am interested in this new thread/forum. My birth daughter turns 18 this year (September 14, 1990). I would like to join this forum and hear how others are feeling.

yes i am interested in a reunion

I, for one, am very frustrated at the moment. I do not know what made me think that just because I posted things all over he place looking for my birthdaughter who turned 18 this Friday (11/07/08), that she would look and miraculously find me immediately. Everday, I come home and find nothing. The worst part is not knowing why. Does she even know she's adopted? Does she not want to see me? Has just not managed to look in the right place yet? Can we say "uuuggghhh!!!"? Hope you hadd, or are having better luck. I won't give up. My last resort will be to hire a PI or search agency to find my daughter, but in the meantime, I am going out of my mind.:hissy:

By all means, do not considering hiring a pi as a last resort - DO IT NOW!! I hired a pi the day after my daughter turned 18. She was found within ten days. We have had a blessed reunion. :grouphug: Go for it.

dont worry djc im an adoptee and i think the same things about my birth mom "does she not want to see me? does she remember she had me? will she hate me?" its a terrible feeling but comforting to know the other party feels the same way right? : )

Obviously, I can't speak for anyone but myself, but personally, I cannot imagine not wanting to see your child. I had Nicole with me til she was 5 1/2 months old and she is forever burned in my memory. The AP's sent me pictures one time when she was 3 yrs old (a good amount of them) and it made me happy, but broke my heart at the same time knowing I was missing out on her life. The hardest part for me is this need to know if she had a good life and that she is happy. Nicole just started her senior year and I know it may not be the right time in her life for me to come into it and I can respect that. I just want her to know that not a day goes by that I don't think about her and that my door is always open for her. I hope when you find your birthmother she feels the same way. If you need any suggestions on where to look, someone sent me a list of sites and I would be more than happy to forward them to you. Best of luck in your search!

that would be lovely thank you, and my birth mom doesnt want to see me because i was sold...

I think it would be awesome to have a thread to ourselves. :) I am an adoptee that started looking for my birth family the day I turned 18.