Making the transition from Open and Semi-Open Adoption

After almost a year of difficulties and a number of face to face, phone and written conversations trying to work them out, I have decided that I must restrict our open adoption to no face to faceђ visits. I still have constant communication with Marni, we email and IM a lot. She understands why I have made this decision, because we talked about it on my back porch two weeks ago, just before her mother and her left, after having been here two months. She knows none of this is her faultand she knows I will always be there for herŅ What I am having a hard time with is getting Sharon to understand that I mean what I say. I am done. I no longer wish to continue a relationship with her. I realize that this is a common issue with people who face the same mental illnesses she does but I have to draw the line. Aside from changing my email address, changing my phone numbers (both work and home) and moving without a forwarding address (none of which I want to do) how can I keep her from continuing to try to cultivate a relationship with me, when I have made it clear I have no desire to have her in my life, at least for right now? I realize I haven֒t shared a lot of what has happened if I need to or you have questions, please ask. I want to make it very clear that I have no intention of going in and out of Marni֒s life she has been, sadly, forced to grow up well beyond her yearsօshe has an amazing grasp of the realities of her life (which tears me up) she is fully aware of everything that is going on and understands that this decision has nothing to do with her. How sad that an 11 year old knows thatօugh. Please no flaming no bashing about how it֒s my moral responsibility to continue to take the crap these people dish outtrust me when I say I have tried VERY hard Ŗ and this decision was not made lightly.