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I am a single mother of a 9 month old and I am also about 20 weeks pregnant. I want to give this baby up for adoption because I feel very strongly about giving a child a 2 parent home. A home where the parents love each other, have a stable income, and can give this baby what it needs. The father of this child wants to keep the baby by himself. He is 25, lives at home with his parents, does not have a job. I recently found out he was using drugs. He treated me very well but was very lazy and when he would drink he would not be very nice. I want so much for this child to go to a family who can give it what it needs. Being a single mom is not easy and I can't give this child what I believe he or she deserves.
Has anyone been in a situation like this? His mom babies him so much and gives him whatever he needs. He still has not grown up. I feel in my heart adoption is what is right but he is stopping me!!!
I live in Mn, does anyone know what kind of rights this father has??
I'm stunned. What awful news. Tuecke, I just wanted to say how sorry I am. Hugs to you and to his family at this difficult time.
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Just wanted to post my continued support to you, especially at this difficult time.
My prayers are with you, your children, and his family.
Thank you everyone. I knew (even though I thought about adoption) that I was carrying this baby for a reason.. and what a blessing this baby is not and forever will be!!! He is the only living thing left of his father!!!
OK, I hope and pray that you are going to be alright. This is a crazy rollercoaster ride that you are on. WOW. Keep us posted as to how you are doing. Hugs your way.
Amanda
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This has been one LONG weekend!!!!!! I can't go anywhere without something or someone reminding me of Chad. Today is his visitation and tomorrow we will bury a friend, lover, son, brother, uncle, and the father of my unborn son....Something I wish I never had to say or do!!!!!!
I'm going to try and go to work for a few hours today just to be around different people but I don't know how long that will last since I woke up this morning and pretty much lost it!!! I will try!!
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that you are doing ok. I will pray for you and the baby.
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tuecke
Hope that you are doing well. Please keep us posted about your baby and how you are doing.
I am prying for you both.
Hi Everyone, just letting you all know that i am doing alright. Baby is moving a lot, I wish his daddy was here to feel him!!! Its just been a little over a week and it is so hard to deal with!!! I hope no one EVER has to go through what I am going through. Even though I was thinking about adoption and I wasnt happy with a lot of things I still miss him and he still was the father of this baby and we decided we were going to raise him together!!! Thanks again for the support and prayers!
I am happy to hear you're feeling better. It's kind of crazy but I keep thinking about when you thought you were having a girl.
How nice for you to have a son...
How's his family doing?
All 4 of his sisters have went back their homes. I know it was VERY hard for them to leave their parents place. So many memories!!! His parents say this is pure hell!!! I have a blessing though that will help carry them through some tough times!!! Every day is hard and 99% of my days are spent thinking about Chad. It hurts but I know my life can't stop. I have to keep going..for Chad and for this baby and my other son. He will always ALWAYS be here with me!!!
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I am in a similar situation....the father of my baby has all of a sudden decided he wants to be involved in the baby's life, or rather wants his mom to have full custody, and I am 31 weeks into my pregnancy. I have just recently made the decision to do an open adoption after moving back in with my parents after leaving a homeless shelter for pregnant women & women with children. I live in GA, and do not know the paternal rights there, but from what I have learned, it is fairly easy to terminate the father's rights even if he is against the adoption.
The father of Tuecks's baby has passed away. Before he did, they had decided to raise the baby together.