Can't Hide From Adoption

Like all the time...and I even decided to parent. Whether I hear an advertisement to adopt a pet from the shelter, hear someone announce their pregnant, hear about someone who's baby was born, or for me just going to work. (I work at the same place as the PAmom I had choosen. I would not recommended this situation for anyone!) I had a SUPER hard time in the beginning, I just thought my whole "adoption thing" would go away once bringing my son home. But then someone commented to me that adoption WAS apart of my life and therefore has affected my life. Thus the reason I hang out here and sometimes write about adoption on my blog. If I think of it as much as I do, I often wonder about mom that signed TPR, how often they must think about it. (((HUGS to all!!!)))

all the freaking time

Thanks for sharing your perspective Rondi - I also think that since we are involved in adoption we are more aware of adoption in the media, everyday life, etc. where someone who is not connected closely to adoption wouldn't even notice. It's almost like my body is subconsciously always on the "alert" so to speak for adoption.

yes, yes, yes. Right now it's that commercial with the dog "Echo" that's on all the time and he wants to be adopted... I'm also in the habit right now of seeing if kids look like their parents...maybe they're adopted? I don't even know why....it's not like I would ask or say anything, but I can't help myself....

Tara, My whole darn life. I am slowly pulling back bits and pieces though. I can't let myself care too much, it hurts me, and I'm sick and tired of hurting.

I understand Belle - self preservation....

Always. And I do think that it's that we are more in tune with adoption than say others not in the triad are. It's like in poker, they say you "never" win with a pair of aces, but that's because you remember vividly every time you don't, so that's why you think it's always. Just today I was at work being blissfully ignorant and I overheard the girl who sits in the cube next to me talking to someone about her children her "adopted" son and her "bio" son. (she is very up front about her children and adoption) And I completely forgot that she was an a-mom because she is so matter of fact about it and I realized, I sit next to adoption every day. Lately tho, I don't want to know anything about adoption and it's unavoidable. And that's when it sucks, when you just want to forget for a while. As if.

I had this whole thing written in response, but I never could get it to sound right. Then I realized that I had a response that sums it all up: Yep.

Yep is right.