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Let's say your child is in his/her teenage years (15-17ish) and wanted you and their bmom/bparents to go on a vacation together would you be willing?
The hard part is you have only seen the bmom/bparents 2 times since your child was born. You have had minimal contact thru phone and email also. You really don't know these people. Would you be willing, for your child's sake to put your heart out their and spend a week with them?
It would be very difficult if you "didn't know them."
Who wants to vacation with strangers?
A good reason to maintain a good amount of contact, if you intend to be that close - e.g. vacationing together.
I would gladly go with my daughter's first family - they are awesome and I love them very much.
But if I didn't know them and my teen suggested a vacation, I would think that request sort of odd and suggest a day together instead - not because I am scared of them or offended, but because a vacation with strangers sounds most unappealing to me.
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A week long vacation might be a bit much. Perhaps a 3 day weekend instead, just as a way to get started together. I might even think that having some time together before a group trip would be advisable.
If you both lived near each other, perhaps arrange a series of day events that everyone could go to during the day, but back home or to separate hotels at night.