Private Adoption v. Adoption Agency/Distance??

A) Why are you scheduling an induction at 38 weeks? While it is full term and the baby should be healthy, know that inductions (and other medical interventions) greatly increase your risk for a c-section. While some argue that c-sections aren't "all that bad," natural birth (with our without meds, your decision) is better for baby as the journey through the birth canal properly squeezes the "ick" out of the baby's lungs making the newborn less likely to have breathing problems upon arrival.B) I'm not sure I understand you quesetion about distance. Are you referring to a specific family that you are looking at via private adoption? In my case, I placed through a large, national agency. They were horrible and I advise not going that route as there was/is no option for post-placement counseling or resources. As for the distance I am to the family, we're about an 8 hour drive apart. We see each other four times per year and that "works." What are your thoughts now? If you think you want any type of visitation, don't choose someone clear across the country because that creates a financial and time restraint burden on both parties as the years pass.Keep asking questions! :)

A) I am scheduling an induction for 38 weeks because it will be easier on me as far as the adoption and the adoptive family goes. Also, I live about 30-45 minutes from the hospital, so it would be better to schedule an induction than chancing delivering my baby on the side of the road.B) Yes, it would be a private adoption w/ a specific family. I would like to have some visitation; however, if the family is not okay w/ that, and only okays the adoption being only as far as pictures & updates, then that would be okay also.

1) I lived the same distance for all three of my deliveries, one with water breaking at home. Is this your first baby? They don't magically pop out, ya know. ;)

I placed privately after deciding that agencies were too pushy. I talked to many different sets of possible parents before choosing (they knew I was looking but no promises) and my final choice lives about 2 hours from me. I chose a couple that wanted more contact than I thought I wanted. Now, they push gently and remind me why a relationship is important and I find that I can deal with more contact than I thought I could; It's HARD but I think it has helped me heal and it helps to feel confident that the a-parents aren't going to disappear or let me get away with fading away. If you want some suggestions of where to look for private couples, you can email or PM me...

I am choosing to place privately due to time, being that I will be induced in about 2 and 1/2 weeks, and the couple I am looking at lives in the same town. I have been in contact w/ the couple and they have no problem with the adoption being open and visitation. I am crossing my fingers that everything goes well, especially since time is running out.