Does anybody know this fostermom???

Why are you looking for this person? There are lots of large families. People who parent children with RAD gain a great deal of experience so perhaps that is what she refers to. Many rad kids do very well in over sized families. There are NO subsidies with internationally adopted kids that disrupt and few families are willing to take them. Perhaps this mom really loves children and can see the potential beyond their behaviors and is able to care for their needs.

Thats just the kicker...their needs are not being met and she just has the bare necessisties for them and nothing extra. Something is just not OKAY here and I wondered why she moved around alot also. constancemarie

If you have first hand knowledge of neglect, then you should report it to authorities. Many kids with RAD do better with only the bare necessities and no extras. The majority of people I know who have disrupted international kids are pretty picky about where their kids are going. It would seem strange that she's have so many if she was doing a bad parenting job. I know a mom with rad kids that flipped houses for a living. She moved all the time. She wanted to be with her kids and not at work. Why do you need to find this woman? There are a lot of parents who have lots of kids.

I dont need to find her. I know her. I think the authorities sent all of the kids to their real parents, but, it looks like a few of them are back. I dunno. Just noticed that it appeared to be a sketchy situation when some of those kids left. I just wanted some information to see if it was normal and natural to take in so many unless she was doing it for the money. You know- I had a gut feeling that something was not right-I could be wrong. constancemarie

There is no money with disrupted international kids. There are not many people willing to take on these kids challenges, so often the ones that are, have multiple kids.

I too have a large family of twelve children all of whom are high special needs. Large numbers do not preclude poor or neglectful care. Be sure of your facts before entering a witch hunt and perhaps causing unnecessary hardship on a family that is all ready working very hard. I of course would have no idea of this family or their circumstances but maybe if you are so interested maybe you could use your interest and forge a friendship and offer assistance and maybe become more educated one way or the other.

Educating myself. Can it be inferred by my posts that is precisely what I am trying to do? Also, I do not think I could cause her any hardship, as I did not include her name or location. I thought that she may have been an absconder of the law or someone impersonating as a foster mom and she could be on the run. You see, for whatever reason, some of the children were taken back to their original adoptees. I assure you my intentions for finding out if she was someone that was legitimate was for the sake of the children only. I am also sorry if I offended anyone, that was not my intent either. constancemarie

I don't see any basis for assuming this woman is breaking the law. She could be doing long term respite for parents which would explain why the children returned to their parents. Parents of children with RAD often get scrutinized and accused of things by people who have no clue what it's like to live with these kids or what the kids need to have in order to heal. They may appear perfectly normal but could in fact kill animals, be sexual perpetrators, or other things that do require certain interventions that may seem cruel or odd to an outsider(such as not being allowed out of the parents sight, needing to do lots of chores to pay for broken windows, or not having lots of things they are unable to take care of) If you are concerned about her parenting or life style, I'd suggest reading Foster Cline's "Can This Child Be Saved" and Nancy Thomas "Dandelion on my Pillow, Butcher knife Beneath."

Not to mention some RAD kids can be exceptionally charming to outsiders. I understand you are concerned about the children but too many times there are people that simply do not know the entire story that are quick to jump to comclusions As someone else mentioned, why not get to know this woman and find out what she is all about. You may be pleasantly suprised to see that what you suspect is totally the opposite. To be honest, I personally couldn't deal with a RAD kid and most of the parents on this forum are not in it for the money. It is definately a labor of love. That said, I would be hard pressed to believe that this woman is doing "just for the money". Then again, I don't know the woman, but from my observations of the parents here, it truley take a special type of person to care for these kids. No amount of money would make me take on a RAD child. God bless the parents that do. EZ EZ