Need advice on how to proceed to help find a birthparent.

Very first step is to get her Non Identifying information from the placement agency. If you don't know the agency call (919) 733-7675 ask for one of the following two people Caroline Armstrong or Cheryl Passerelli and they can tell you the agency . That Non Id will tell you birth mom's age, siblings, education, etc. Age is important to know as many names are duplicated. Ask the agency if her mother ever inquired about her. Post on AdoptionRegistry.com and any other message boards. Include the county of birth or agency if you can determine that. If Mecklenburg , Guilford county or Durham county is involved write me privately and let me see if I can help or guide you. Write to Searchhelp@aol.com

Please check [url=http://adoptionreform-nc.org]NCCAR[/url], if you choose to use the CI program. We have a list of the agencies who are participating and those to use if yours is not. Roberta

I've been approached by some people on this forum to provide my mother in laws DOB and maiden name to help in adoption search. Is this a common practice? Any danger in providing this information? I don't want to seem untrusting but just want to make sure that this is normal process and nothing bad could happen providing this personal information. Thanks.

I would not give out information unless you speak DIRECTLY with them. ALWAYS hold back something that only YOU know. Also, please check out the CI program and contact me with any questions you may have I will be glad to answer them. Roberta

The reason for asking for the birthdate and maiden name is because the search angels have records they can check and help you. How else would anyone find the birthmother if they don't know the dob of the child. The age of the birthmother is also another way of being sure your are tracking the right one as so many names can be duplicated. Take a look at all the other message boards ..they all have dob and names if known. In order to get help you need to give that kind of information to the one helping you search. The CI program has a charge and I understand, depending on the county, a long waiting list. Some counties do not participate in the CI program. You absolutely need your Non Id for any help outside the CI program..even with that you are entitled to that information. Call Raleigh, find out the agency, request the Non Id and let someone help you. Only the adoptee name, date of birth and names of adoptive parents are required to get the non id along with a proof of who you are..such as a copy of a driver's license. If all else fails you can always as for CI help.

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Adoptions are recorded in the county it ocurrs in "most of the time". The info that is confidential is the birth mother's name or any other identifiable facts. A North Carolina adoptee can get their birthmom's age, education, number of siblings, appearance, and depending on the age of the mother possibly grandparent information, occupation, etc. The birth dad's info depends on whether the mother wants to disclose it or the birth dad's involvement. The adoptee is legally entitled to this information from the placement agency. Most states do provide some non identifying information. This information is vital in a search.

You can now call the following number (919)733-7675 and ask for Cheryl Passerelli. Tell her you want to know which agency handled your adoption. You may have to send in proof of who you are. Once you get that information you can check [url=http://adoptionreform-nc.org]NCCAR[/url] in order to find out if the agency is participating in the CI program. If they are not, I strongly suggest you use the Boys and Girls Home of NC. Any questions feel free to contact Roberta MacDonald at nccar@mindspring.com