question for Bmoms

when my sons aparents sent letters and pictures, they mainly focused on how he was doing, what his likes and dislikes were, and told me of milestones he reached etc... I GREATLY appreciated those letters, in fact , I still have them, even 18 years later... I think she kept it general and child focused, cause it was easier...I think it would have been for me too, had I been in her shoes just my 2 cents, hope it helps.... Kerri

I think both info about the baby and your family is perfectly fine. I have always enjoyed hearing about my son's family, knowing a little about their background, interests, etc. It made me feel like I knew them a bit and I felt more connected to them.

I just sent an updated package to my son's Mama M... and his grandma called to tell us they got the package. Even tough they were very happy to hear how well my son was doing they did ask why I did not put anything in it about me. (In the package were alot of pictures of my son and it so happen that my husband was in a few.) So next time, I have to make sure there are pictures of me. In the first year of my son's life, I took it easy with his Mama M... knowing how hard it might feel. So when we did make contact, I kept it short but I explained why and she was thankful of that. If this is your frist letter, it might be nice to let her know how thankful you are and even tough you can never fully understand what she must be going through you can only imagen how hard it must be on her. With this said, you will keep it short for now but when the time is right for her, more updates will come. Tell her that when she is ready, you will be there for her. If you put in your letter sometime small about your family, this might ease her mind in wondering if he is with a loving family.

Hi. First of all congratulations on your impending adoption! :-) As a bmom I would simply want to know that my baby is loved and cherished. That would be the most important thing to me. Just my opinion. Wishing you and your family all good things! :-) Janey

I think a little about your family would be good. A little about baby is of course the most important. I wouldn't write anything about being thankful. I don't like being thanked, placing my son for adoption wasn't about making his mom and dad happy, it was about giving him what I couldn't.

I think that a note would be totally appropriate and treasured by bmom when she's ready to have it. I think talking about your family, how baby's doing and how you love baby, etc. Another thing too, if you are open to it, is to tell her you'd love to hear from her when she's ready.

I sent the card to the Adoption Specialist today. I just wrote that baby A is doing GREAT and that he has started to smile. I also told her we all love him very much. I also included pictures. I don't know if she will ever be ready to see them , but they are there for her when she is ready.

Glad to hear that you sent something along. Good luck to you!