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For those of you that have followed my other threads you probably know that my reunion with my DD ended last saturday. IT is a really long story, but unfortunately for now it is for the best for borth of us (I just pray it isn't going to be forever). Anyway today I had a horrible revelation...I realized that I can no longer close my eyes and hear her voice. It was so disturbing and heartbreaking that I had to write about it on my blog. ([url=http://www.abirthmomsthoughts.blogspot.com]A Birthmom's Thoughts[/url]) It HURT a lot, and I was just wondering how many other birthmoms have had an incredibly bad day when they realize that something that had become such a given in their reunion was suddenly gone after the reunion has eneded. Especially when you aren't sure if you will ever get the chance to have it back...the reunion or the ability to hear her voice.
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Jackie...
I know but it still hurts!!! I did not do this, her "parents" did...again there were a lot of lies and untruths. She believed them over me and that is a hurt that I will never get over. These are the same that told me that she was killed in a bicycle accident, yet she wasn't...how could she believe anything that comes out of their mouths? It just hurts, that is all I can say.
Wait...are you saying that her parents told you she was killed in a bicycle accident years ago? I had read that you were told that earlier in your story and thought it was some awful agency mistake. Are you saying her parents told you she was dead? I'm really hoping I misunderstood or ...wow. Please tell me I'm wrong.
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no you not wrong!!! when she was 9 I had a private investigator come to my place of employment and hand deliver a letter typed and signed by the adoptive parents. so no, you are not wrong...it was indeed her adoptive parents. i still have the letter to this very day. i have never been given an explaination or an apology about why they did that. however i have often wondered how much i would win in a mental cruelty case against...i mean they are both doctors!!! it is tempting, but i would never do it bc i have prided myself on being the better person in this reunion...don't think i havent thought about it though!!!
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All I can think is that they must be incredibly afraid of you! At this stage in your daughter's life I suspect she has to convince herself that she believes what ever they say. As she grows and matures that may well change. They may find in the long run that their tactics backfire and they lose her completely. Continue to take the highroad (and fantasize about your revenge!)
Jennasmom1990
I hear you.. Its horrible what is happening.. and there are no words to say how sorry I am that this is happening..
You are good people and you do not deserve this..
They are sick people IMO.. they have told terrible lies.. and they have done very wrong things..
And your birthdaughter (as others have written) needs to sort this.. and I am sure she is going to need time..
I am so sorry..
Jackie
I know but it still hurts!!!
I did not do this, her "parents" did...again there were a lot of lies and untruths. She believed them over me and that is a hurt that I will never get over.
These are the same that told me that she was killed in a bicycle accident, yet she wasn't...how could she believe anything that comes out of their mouths? It just hurts, that is all I can say.
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In Aug of 1989 I made the hardest choice of my life. I have prayed that I would some day look into my first borns eyes and see I made the correct choice.My daughter is now 19 and I would like to know she is doing well. She was born in Oak Lawn,Il at Christ hospitial. I hand picked her parents for her. When we met face to face Bob and Vikki promised a great life for whom they would name Courtney. I cherish the photos they sent me when she was a baby. I belive they live {or lived in Homewood or their abouts}
Though I was told they were quite the travelers so they could be anywhere now.
I'm sending out a plea....if anyone knows where this family is ...please let them know I pray for them. I long to see my daughter. A friendship would be what I seek. After all I gave them the greatest gift and I mean no harm.
How ever if no meeting is wanted at this time or any other my heart will remain broken and torn. I would like to pass on to Courtney and her parents the fact that she has a sister Olivia who was born in 1992 and a brother Matthew who was born in 1986. We have always spoken about you and the sad choice I had to make at a very unstable time in my life. they too would love to hear from your family. I wish you nothing but true happiness! Tammy