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So I've had the contact information I've needed for a while, but have really struggled with what to say and how to say it. It is was an open adoption so I know I have the right women and she has been in touch with my family over the years (did not learn until recently), but we have neer made contact. Because I am positive it is her my letter doesn't seem to take the traditional form, but i'm still eager for suggestions! Please read!
Dear -----,
I have wanted to write to you for a very long time, but, due to a loss for words, it has taken me until now to finally do so. I have spent countless night lying in bed asking myself how I was supposed to write a letter to a women whom I have never met before, but who is, at the same time, far from a stranger.
My main purpose for writing this is to thank you. Nineteen years ago you did perhaps the most selfless and beautiful thing I could ever imagine, You gave both me and the _______s a second chance to be part of a family. The more I think about it the more I am in awe of what you have done for me. Simply writing thank youӔ could never convey the immense gratitude and respect I have for you. You are my angel.
You should rest assure that there is no better family with whom you could have placed me. The______s have loved, protected, nurtured, guided me, and have done everything imaginable to assure my wellbeing and happiness. Theyve taught me to be a responsible student, a determined athlete, an outdoors enthusiast, and a lover of music. They have always encouraged me to be the best that I can be in all that I do, and have supported me all the way to a national championship title in sailing. TheyҒve always believed in me even when I doubted myself. For them, no sacrifice was too large when it cam to my education, allowing me to attend __________, which apart from my family and friends has proved to be the best thing that has ever happened to me. I graduated this May and will be attending _______shortly. My parents are very proud of me and I like to thin you would be too.
I have always known I was adopted, and for as long as Ive known IҒve wondered about youwho you are where you live, what youŒre like, if I look like you, and all the other questions which inevitably pass through an adoptees mind. As I grew I not only came to better understand the meaning of adoption, but to be able to appreciate the absolute beauty of it. My adoption, has played a very large roll in my life and has come to mold me into who I am today. It has shaped me in more ways than anyone can imagine. I believe that in some ways my being adopted has made me a better person. I appreciate life and everything in it, I accept the good with the bad, and want nothing more than to give something back for all the chances IҒve been given. I have been truly blessed because of your decision.
I apologize as deeply as it is possible, if this letter has come as a shock, or if it has caused you or your family pain in anyway. That was not my intent. I wanted only to thank you for everything and to let you know that I am thinking of you as I have often over these past nineteen years. Most importantly you need to know how very much I admire you for all that you have done. Strong enough words do not exist to properly describe my gratitude. You gave me a second chance at life, and for that I respect you more deeply than you will ever know. I hope someday to be able to thank you in person, and be able to meet your husband and beautiful children, but until that day the best that I can do is to write it. Thank you for everything!
I understand that you may not be in a place were you are ready to correspond and that such a time may in fact never come, but you should know that if that is the case that the doors will always remain open if you ever change your mind.
Love _____
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I'm a birthmother and I think it's lovely.
If I'd gotten that letter from my birthson, and if there had been contact information on it, I would have called him as soon as I composed myself.
But that's me!
:-)
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That was a very beautifully written letter. As a bmom, I would be absolutely thrilled to receive something like that!
The only change I would make (and this is a nitpicky spelling error), is to change the word "roll" to "role" in this sentence:
My adoption, has played a very large roll in my life and has come to mold me into who I am today.
Oh, and by the way, welcome to the board!
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It is a wonderful letter. You sound like a very mature, very considerate and loving girl. Your parents must be so proud. Be sure and include contact information if you want her to be able to contact you. Good luck on your next step in school and in your reunion.
BTW, do your parents know about this? are they supportive?
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My parents do know. They were the ones who gave me the contact information. I've discussed it in passing with both of them, my father is supportive, my mother is kind of on an emotional rollercoaster right now, for a whole variety of reasons, and as a result is kind of apathetic.
Thank you all for your help. I feel much better about all of this. I will let you know how it goes.
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did you mail it? I wrote a very similar letter to my bmom and mailing it was tough and the waiting tougher. she emailed me 2 days later. well, worth the anxiety!
I did mail it and got a response rather quickly, which I was very pleased about. The letter I recieved was more than I expected (in the very best way). Put a lot of things at ease. I have since then written to my birthfather as well and have since been exchanging letters with them via mail somewhat frequently.
Thank you to everyone for your input and support!
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I am new here (couple of weeks). I am a birth mom searching for my daughter. I have thought of her since her birth. Your letter touched me so deeply. You are definitely mature beyond your years. My prayer as a birth mom would be to get a letter such as yours.
God Bless,
P
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