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I've posted this in another thread too, but I really hope to reach adoptees and adoptive parents, because for the life of me, I cannot figure this out.
Can someone please explain to me why all the triad members cannot just get along? Why is there always someone in pain in the triad? If adoption is such a good thing, why do some bmoms (in particular) feel like they are duped by the aparents when they want to establish a relationship to be chosen to adopt that mother's child, only to later on have issue with everything about her life. Or maybe that is not even accurate, I just feel like when I was pregnant, the only people nice to me were the people who wanted to adopt my child. Now, he is over the age of majority and I have reached out to them more than once, only to have the door slammed on me. Can't we just all get along and be one extended family (in my case we really are blood relatives) or at least close friends? What am I missing? Besides my son obviously, but where is the logic in this??????
There is no logic. People can be nasty and manipulative when they want something. In my opinion, it's worse when it's family. I hope in your situation, that your relatives are ashamed of how they've acted, and they aren't mature enough to admit it, and try to move forward. I'm sorry you have been through so much. I know one day Josh will reach out to you. I hope that day comes quickly for you. Maybe then his parents will realize you just add to his life, that you don't take anything away from theirs.
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