Trying to relax, and give it to God...

Hello, The wait can be so hard. I really do not have any great advise for you other that what you are already doing! Trust in the Lord, He has a perfect plan for your life. These situations are completely out of our control, but just lean on the fact that God is in complete control! If this is the baby for you it will all fall into place! I will be praying for you and your family!

Jamie_OB, I know what you are feeling, the wait is the hardest thing ever. I don't have any encouraging words as I am having a bad day today, you know with adoption it's either a good one or a bad one. I will keep you in my prayers. Just know, that there are people out there going thru the same thing as you....it does help me a little, thinking about it, I'm not the only one feeling this?? ~Vicki

Thank you both for your responses, and yes, it does help to know I'm not alone in the "wait." Thank you for the prayers, is there anything I can pray about for you? ~Jamie

We are also in the adoption process. We are in our 2nd Fost Adopt in California where we live. We rec'd our son in '04 after waiting only 3 months, but going thru three failures. This time is much longer, we have been waiting almost seven months now and I am having a real hard time with it lately. We keep getting calls and putting in interest forms on line and they always seem to be matched already. We just haven't found our child/children yet. But, the thing getting me thru this whole thing is my blessing that we received 4 years ago. Although reading these posts really helps me.

I will pray for you too...Today may be the day I find out either way. I can barely stand it.

It is very difficult. I will be praying for you. Keep in mind that God will bring the child that is meant to be in your family to you. We were chosen and the bmom decided to parent. 2 months later we were chosen again and brought home DD who was so clearly meant to be part of our family.

I will be praying for you & your family! We just got a call on a 2 month old and they will choose the family next Thursday, so please keep me in your prayers!! It is so hard not to get excited, my whole family keeps saying don't get your hopes up, but I know you all understand how it feels..... ~vicki

Hi, I wish the best to everyone in this forum. My husband and I are trying to adopt. It's been 6 months since our homestudy was completed and more than 11 months since we started all the paperwork. We have had 11 calls, believe it or not, but only 2 went forward with our lawyer and neither of them worked out. We are now back in the waiting holding pattern and I hope we get another call soon. We have been trying to do a private adoption with our lawyer and social worker only, with our own marketing. We are now looking at local agencies to see if we should sign with one (even though it's out of our price range). I agree, it's nice to know we're not the only ones out there, hopefully, waiting to be parents. I keep telling myself that God would not put it in my heart to be a Mom, make me infertile and then not send me a child through adoption, but I wonder some days. I really enjoy being an aunt (to triplets! and 1 other nephew), we love playing with our friend's children too, but they all eventually go home. Please keep us in mind and in your prayers, we obviously need more to get us through this. Take care - Tiffany - edited to remove adoption website. Please remember this is not allowed in posts.

Well, I wanted to send an update! We were the chosen family 2 weeks ago for a sibling set of 3 and we went to our formal presentation yesterday and we have officially said 'YES'! We will start visits with our new children either this week or next. We have a lot to do around the house and we need to buy a new car, we are so excited! Good luck to everyone, I truly believe when it's right, it's right. I felt this way with our first son and know with our new ones, everything is just falling into place!

Congrats!!!

Vicnric that is awesome - just curious - were you adopting through the state or was this a private adoption?

Hi, Yes, our adoption is thru the state we are working with a private agency that is state funded but they only work with foster kids from the state. We went for our first visit and brought them home the next day, our experience has been amazing. The parents rights have not been terminated yet, so we still have to do weekly visits which we are working with the kids about, it is so confusing for them. But, it just feels right and we know in our hearts at the next court date it will go our way!

Hi Vicnric,I completely know how it feels to have loved ones say "don't get your hopes up." But the truth is, it's impossible... adoption is a beautiful, challenging journey.But as I type this, I am holding my 1 month old son who is more perfect than I ever could have imagined. God definitely chose him for us. My moto through the adoption process was fight, faith, prayer. It's worth it. Good luck.~Jamie