What was your transition like?

January 30, 2009

My homestudy worker is advising us to stay in Virginia or maybe consider a neighboring state. One reason she says this is due to the transition. She says a state further away combined with several visits will incur a higher travel cost.

So I'm curious... what was your transition like. And what state were you coming from and going to?

..patience..

March 2, 2009

I get the feeling our social services agency workers are interesting in placing from within their county specifically, but it seems to just be the individual attitude versus the rule.

I look forward to hearing the replies you get

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dachshunds4you

March 2, 2009

Funny you should say that about individual opinions. When I asked our agency about out of state kids, she said most of them have really bad behavioral issues and that they couldn't get adopted by families within their own states. Maybe on some of the kids that may true, but I don't think it's the case for a general rule.

I too wonder how you can adopt from other states...do you have to go through CPS or does your agency have to allow out of state adoptions? Our foster/adopt agency said they would only do it case by case basis and they would have to get permission to do an adoption for another state.

Binny

March 4, 2009

We used a private agency because our state has very few adoptable kids and we have been able to inquire about children out of state. No match any where yet.

Krispy

March 4, 2009

That's interesting. The State of Oregon DHS will not allow you to use a homestudy they have prepared to adopt a child outside of Oregon. They say there are waiting children in Oregon to adopt. They will however take homestudies from out of state no problem.

linda3995

March 12, 2009

I agree that the transition time can not only be costly but time consuming too for the small amounts of time you get to spend with them (and it depends a lot on the age & behaviors of the child too). We are in the process of adopting a sibling group where the older boy is being hesistent and they are only 2 1/2 hours from us - but the transistion is going to be a long one. I couldn't understand at first why we couldn't just spend a weekend with them alone, but they have to start out with supervised visits (and obviously the caseworkers can't spend their time 24/7 babysitting transition get togethers). THis is new to us too as our first was adopted locally at 8 months and was a breeze compared to what we are going through now. Also, many states (once again depending on age, size & need) will only provide benefits to kids adopted within their state. SOme of these kids can't risk the chance that the parents would continue on their own at their expense if the child was moved out of state. Just my two cents.